These postings, especially part two, from A Stitch In Haste, hit the “rush to marriage” and the “horror over FMA” crowd squarely between the eyes.
It’s honestly getting to point where one might ask whether the “too much too soon” crowd suffers from some form of pathological self-loathing. Or perhaps they’re taking a page out of the radical feminist and black activist playbook — after all, it pays to be persecuted.
UPDATE: Clearly I must be having some reading comprehension problems today, as has been pointed out by the commenters on this posting! So I humbly accept the ‘Dope of the Week’ award. *grin*
That being said, let me outline clearly my views of gay marriage and its backlash. If A Stitch In Time agrees with any of it….. then, that’s what I meant to infer above! *laugh*
1 – I do not see gay marriage as the end all/be all of “gay rights.” Many partnered gays do not want to get married. If I wanted to be married, I would be straight. When did the gay subculture decide to “mainstream”? I just think making this our “line in the sand” was a miscalculation that is resulting in a backlash.
2 – I oppose FMA and am disappointed in President Bush in pursuing it. But as Lincoln said, he would rather have kept slavery in order to preserve the union; I think we need to put the gay marriage debate in the context of a nation at war and ask is this really the time to push for it when 2/3 of America opposes it.
3 – I vehemently oppose using the court system to subvert the will of the people. I disagree with people like Matt Foreman of the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force who said “basic human rights should never be put up for a vote.” That isn’t consistent with democracy.
4 – I am disappointed that gay marriage bans are passing in states, but wonder if that is because of how red-hot this issue. America needs time to be educated and the gay activists have to learn how to relate to non-urban, non-Blue America where most of the growth of the nation is happening.
5 – No one on either side of this debate is looking for common ground…just continuing to declare nuclear war against the other…. FMA on one side, judicial activism on the other. The only thing that is happening is further polarization, distrust, and hatred.