I believe that one of the (various) reasons gay activists are losing the battle to promote acceptance of gay marriage is that they fail to understand the opposition to this significant social change. Too many contend that all who oppose gay marriage do so out of bigotry. They ignore that many who oppose gay marriage are not necessarily anti-gay.
Bruce noted recently how Matt Foreman, Executive Director of NGLTF (National Gay and Lesbian Task Force), defined state referenda on same-sex marriage as “bordering on immoral.” The Human Rights Campaign blamed “divisive politics” for the overwhelming passage earlier this month of a Texas constitutional amendment precluding state recognition of same-sex marriages — and domestic partnerships as well.
Echoing HRC’s rhetoric, Log Cabin’s outgoing Political Director Chris Barron called the Texas referendum “politics at its worst. Folks are tired of this divisive politics.” Yeah, Americans (including 76% of Lone Star State voters) were so tired of such divisive politics that they repeatedly vote in favor of referenda precluding same-sex marraige.
Such comments, which Log Cabin highlighted in its November 17 “Inclusion Wins” e-mail, shows that this group, like other gay groups, has excluded itself from what Michelle Malkin has called the “reality-based community.” While I agree with Log Cabin in opposing such referenda, I do not support their rhetoric of opposition.
They need to understand that far from being “tired” of such politics, many Americans embrace such initiatives. They are not yet ready to support such significant social change. Only when advocates of gay marriage understand why an overwhelming majority of Americans oppose their ideas can they develop a strategy to change people’s minds.
In the real world, many decent, open-minded Americans have serious concerns about gay marriage. They vote in large numbers in favor of proposals defining marriage as the union of one man and one woman even as they work with and befriend openly gay people and welcome us into their homes. Gay activists who fail to understand opposition to gay marriage are living in some kind of alternative reality where wishes make things so.
If such activists were serious about promoting gay marriage, they would first try to understand the opposition to their proposed social change and then put forward a strategy to convince those who have not yet been swayed of its wisdom.
-Dan (AKA GayPatriotWest): GayPatriotWest@aol.com
UPDATE: In the original version of this post, there was a terrible error in the headline. Now corrected. BIG OOPS.