About six months ago, Bruce linked a column by Dale Carpenter, a man who is rapidly becoming my favorite gay columnist, nothing how he and his date got “nasty looks” when holding hands in Minnesota. His word struck me today when running errands in West Hollywood. I did a double take when I saw two men walking down the street holding hands.
I did a double take because I realized that even here in West Hollywood where the main commercial area is devoted to things gay, that I only rarely see couples holding hands. They would clearly not face the scorn that Dale did in the Gopher State. At the Pacific Theaters at the Grove, which probably attracts the largest gay crowd of any commercial movie theater in Los Angeles, it seems that gay couples almost never hold hands. Indeed, when I saw Brokeback Mountain there, the only couples in the audience holding hands were male-female ones. (I noted how one particularly attractive guy, buying popcorn at the same time as I, instantly seized the hand of his female date when he returned to his seat.)
Back when I lived in DC and was sitting on 17th Street, sipping coffee with friends, one of our number noted a passing couple holding hands and commented how infrequentlys he sees such things, even in the heart of gay DC. Is it just us or do others find that gay men rarely hold hands in public?