Shortly after I created an e-mail address for my blog identity, I started receiving regular hate mails. After a time, they slowed a bit, but I still receive occasional hate mail, usually receiving more when a post attracts attention in the gay blogosphere.
And that happened this week when the Washington Blade‘s Blogwatch linked my piece on the Persistence of Bias Against Gay Conservatives. Not only did we get a few more nasty comments than usual, but I got a few more hate mails than I normally receive.
While the writers surely hoped to upset me, instead, they brought a smile to my face. Given the topic of the post, they merely proved my point, that many in our community have a knee-jerk reaction to any gay conservative voice. Here’s the full text of one such hate-filled missive:
How stupid can one be? A gay republican is an ignorant democrat who wants to be rich. People like you make it difficult for the rest of us to maintain/secure rights afforded to the rest of the country. Wake up before it’s too late.
At no point does this individual substantiate any of his points — nor does he address any that I made in my post. It’s just bile, pure and simple.
This seems to be learned behavior because these writers merely parrot the same slogans of the angry gay left and respond to us as if we conform to the inaccurate image of a self-hating gay conservative portrayed in the gay media — and sometimes the gay press.
It is fascinating to me that gay people who have been marginalized from mainstream society, would seek to marginalize gay people with different political views than their own. It would seem to me that our experience dealing with being different would make us more tolerant of others who differ from the norm.
While we as gay people differ from society’s heterosexual norm, we as gay conservatives differ from the gay community’s political norm. And gay conservatives constitute a far greater percentage of the gay population than gay people constitute of the general population.
Despite the bile coming from a certain unhappy segment of our community, I am pleased by the number of gay liberals who have commented in a civil manner to our posts — or written to me personally — either taking issue with our arguments or asking serious (and very often thoughtful) questions about the challenges of being a gay conservative. It is unfortunate alas, that all too often those thoughtful gay voices on the left are drowned out by their angrier and more hate-filled counterparts.
Perhaps, I’m naive, but I remain ever hopeful that through civil discourse, while we may not be able to change minds, we will at least succeed in making others appreciate the sincerity of our views. In so doing, we help create an environment in the gay community where diverse political viewpoints are not only welcomed, but celebrated as well.
-Dan (AKA GayPatriotWest): GayPatriotWest@aol.com