In my post yesterday, I expressed my reluctance at taking a stand I know to be controversial in the gay community. We gay conservatives are all too familiar with the hostility we experience when we come out to our supposedly tolerant fellows.
I was once introduced to a guy who, after hearing me express my passion for mythology and my love for movies, was proposing to me before we even met. And while he acknowledged finding me attractive when we did meet in person, he e-mailed me to say he couldn’t “get past” my politics, describing the current administration as evil and refusing to understand how “anyone with any intelligence or compassion” could support even an iota of support for “its ideology.”
He, like so many others, dismissed my ideas offhand. Even as he acknowledged my intelligence, he refused even to listen to my arguments. Based entirely on our political differences, he closed off any possibility of friendship, much less romance. After receiving the e-mail I excerpted above, I never heard from him again.
And while many of us gay conservatives have developed strong friendships, even romantic relationships, with our ideological adversaries, nearly every gay conservative I have met (or with whom I have corresponded) has experienced a situation similar to the one I described above, where someone who has initially expressed interest in us, won’t let themselves “get past” our politics.
It’s not just in relationships we experience this. When we go out into the gay world and come out as conservatives, we face insults, ridicule, derision and rejection.
Yet, the mainstream media doesn’t seem much interested in the mean-spirited anti-Republican intolerance of all too many gays. It doesn’t fit their narrative of the way the world works. Instead, they want to show how intolerant many Southerners are of gays. And while such intolerance may well exist, it might be more interesting if some news network actually looked at both “red-state” attitudes toward gays and gay attitudes toward conservatives and religious Christians. Such a program might allow people to compare the attitudes and see that social conservatives do not have a monopoly on intolerance.
Michelle Malkin reported earlier this week, ABC News is staging an “experiment” in Alabama hiring actors to portray same-sex couples publicly displaying affection. She says this experiment has earned the network’s news division a new motto: “All the news that’s fit to stage.”
Perhaps, the network should hire a few actors to wear pro-Republican T-shirts and walk through central West Hollywood to see the reaction they might earn. Heck, I’d be willing to do that and I wouldn’t even need to act.
Or maybe I could just conduct that experiment myself. Let’s see how much it would cost to get a Republican T-shirt and buy a videocamera. . . . That could actually be a learning experience for me in more way than one — as I could finally figure out how to post video on the web.