Before even checking our sitemeter, I knew we must’ve gotten another link from a left-wing blog when I was reviewing the comments caught in our spam filter. We had received an unusual number of hate-filled reactions to Bruce’s piece yesterday, Myrick, Knollenberg Want Action Taken Against Carter. Yup, checked the sitemeter, lots of links coming in from TBogg.
What is it about certain left-wingers that they can only address the subject of gay conservatives with bile and bitterness?
I recall last fall when some left-of-center blog linked my piece on media disinterest in the anti-conservative attitude of gays and we received such a welter of angry and apoplectic comments, I was delighted to post a follow-up piece on the reactions. (Reviewing them, I laughed as hard as I normally do when watching a Monty Python sketch.)
And now Bruce’s piece on Republican Congressmen standing up to Jimmy Carter’s visits with America’s enemies gets the dander of angry left-wingers up again. But, they just repeat the same tired, old clichÃ©s we gay conservatives have been hearing almost since the first moment we came out (as conservatives) in gay circles or when we dared defend Republicans in liberal circles where we came out (as gay).
While our situation allows us to see more readily left-wing narrow-mindedness, it also gives us an opportunity to more readily ascertain the character of the individuals we meet. I mean, if they react with angry opprobrium to our unique combination of politics and sexuality, we know them to be either incredibly intolerant and short-sighted or just amazingly **amazingly** insecure.
We know how narrow these people are if they react so vehemently to an unfamiliar phenomenon. And we know we cannot really count on these people as friends (or lovers) if they make angry assumptions based on our political views.
But, then we meet those, a very large number in my experience, liberals who, while curious to apparent oxymorons like ourselves and they react not with outrage, but with genuine curiosity and interest, asking us how we could hold such seemingly contradictory views, embracing a political worldview (which at least in its media portrayal) appears at odds with our sexuality. Or sometimes even with befuddlement about the seeming contradiction we represent, but then with genuine reassurances of respect for our differences.
When they still treat us an individuals even when knowing our politics, we know they are broad-minded individuals with whom we can exchange ideas. And we have sense we can count on them as friends and lovers because we know they do not dismiss someone merely because he holds an unusual viewpoint or has political views at odds with their own.
To some degree, being a gay conservative is thus a shortcut into determining the character of many liberals. And while the recent spate of angry comments suggests there are a fair number narrow-minded liberals out there (all too many with their own blogs), our own experience shows that there are many broad-minded ones out there as well. And not only do they offer interesting perspectives at odds with our own, more often than not, they make very good friends.