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Gay Marriage: Good for your Health?

Posted by GayPatriotWest at 8:41 pm - October 22, 2008.
Filed under: Conservative Ideas,Gay Marriage

A longtime reader of the conservative press (and now the web), I have long been familiar with research showing that married people are healthier and live longer.  I’d always wondered if that held true for same-sex couples–and if there were any research to that effect.

Well, it turns out it does and there is.  At his blog Queertown, Patrick Range McDonald alerts us to just such a study, a recent report by the “the Gay and Lesbian Medical Association . . . that didn’t get much play in the press.” Wonder why that is, given that its results show that gay marriage promotes physical and mental wellbeing.

I’m delighted this report cites some social conservative defenders of traditional marriage, including Linda Waite and Maggie Gallagher’s The Case for Marriage: Why Married People Are Happier, Healthier, and Better Off Financially. Looks like I’m not the only one who thinks gay marriage advocates can learn from social conservatives.

According to the report:

Married individuals report more emotional support and are more likely to have a close confidant than the unmarried. Emotional support is directly associated with health and wellbeing and provides protection against the negative health consequences of stress.

Finally, someone making a positive case for gay marriage during this political season. I wonder why this hasn’t much play in the press. It’s particularly relevant to an issue on the fall ballot; it helps us understand why marriage is a defining institution of society.

More advocates of gay marriage should do as the authors of this report have done–and consider the social conservative defense of traditional marriage.  Kudos to them for treating gay marriage as more than a gimmick in the campaign for “equality,” but instead as an meaningful institution which benefits those who undertake its obligations.

Now if only more people would pay attention.



  1. Bill O’Reilly would jump on you for this post if you were popular enough.

    Comment by Mitchell Blatt — October 22, 2008 @ 9:58 pm - October 22, 2008

  2. What a way to make your uncle feel good–tell him he’s not popular enough for Bill O’Reilly!

    Comment by GayPatriotWest — October 22, 2008 @ 10:01 pm - October 22, 2008

  3. #2

    Maybe if you did a Vlog from Parliament House…..

    Comment by ThatGayConservative — October 23, 2008 @ 1:34 am - October 23, 2008

  4. it becomes increasingly difficult to oppose gay marriage as gays ‘come out’ become ordinary.

    Marriage is the bedrock of our civilization. We no longer live on the land, and we tend to become unmoored from our families. Marriage has therefore become less about property and more about friendship between two people.

    Children are, however, at the centre of marriage still, and represent one generation’s stake in the succeeding generation. This is why I am coming to the conclusion that marriage should INCLUDE the presence of children (either adopted, as in the case of Roger L Simon’s son and partner), or as a pregnancy (as in the Todd and Sarah Palin marriage).

    The stability and health you talk of is because of the taking on of the responsibility of children.

    Comment by heather — October 23, 2008 @ 1:54 am - October 23, 2008

  5. Forgive me if this is off-topic, but I am unenlightened and need someone more sensitive to explain this quote (from this article) to me:

    (William Shatner) also attacked (George) Takei’s decision to come out of the closet later in life, saying “Who cares? Be gay. Don’t be gay. That’s up to you, George.”

    How exactly is that statement an “attack?” I don’t get it.

    Comment by V the K — October 23, 2008 @ 8:40 am - October 23, 2008

  6. V the K, your comment isn’t off topic, but actually may shed more light on the issue of gay folk and gay marriage. From my reading of the Shatner/Takei article, Shatner felt that he really didn’t know ‘Takei’ during the Star Trek years. Coming out later in life, Takei took some folk by surprise, and Shatner responded ‘Ok be Gay’.

    These ‘coming out’ revelations to friends and family are often shocking, not due to the issue of homosexuality but rather that friends and family often feel ‘left out’, some even betrayed with the ‘news’. Coming out is a long hard process. and for some folk acceptance of homosexuality isn’t the true issue, it is more likely the issue of trust.

    And with gay marriage, many folk are uncertain with the idea. Uncertainity breeds confusion, denial, defiance and even higher emotions of anger and distrust.

    As the walls of the institutional bias created by heterosexism and internalized homophobia continue to crumble and more and more folk become ‘acguainted with gay folk’ life will become easier.

    As far as American Elephant’s comment about the LGBT community denouncing events like Folsom, and even audacious Pride events, please remember that there are lots of non-family events out there in the hetero community that don’t really line up in the ‘family events’ sections of community papers and aren’t denounced by the greater community. People just don’t go. Think about those crazy music concerts.

    Most of my most conservative, religious friends hug me with great enthusiasm, because they are hugging me, and not the gay community.
    But these same folk have a different idea of the gay community because of me, my partner and the friends that I have. I am an out gay man, but not because of the rainbow flag or the HRC equality sticker. I live my life with pride and honor, not in the shadows of a closet.

    Comment by rusty — October 23, 2008 @ 10:40 am - October 23, 2008

  7. You never answered how Shatner’s remark constituted an “attack.”

    Comment by V the K — October 23, 2008 @ 11:51 am - October 23, 2008

  8. Shatner’s comments may be viewed as an attack, or rather a comment that doesn’t show support. Shatner’s response was rather a exclamation of surprise, rather than one of support. Shatner’s ‘indifference’ could possibly reflect his surprise of Takei’s announcement where some might have thought a more thoughtful expression of positive acknowledgement would have been ‘kewl’.

    But my primary point is that when people are considering ‘coming out’,
    they always are leary of how those around them are going to react.

    Comment by rusty — October 23, 2008 @ 11:58 am - October 23, 2008

  9. Rusty,

    Those events are central to the straight community. Nobody even knows about them. Folsom and gay pride are the biggest gay events there are, and everyone knows about them. All the gay publications talk about them. Yet none denounce.

    Not a good comparison.

    By the way, i said that in a different thread

    Comment by American Elephant — October 23, 2008 @ 4:51 pm - October 23, 2008

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