Welcome Instapundit Readers!Â If this topic interests you, check out some other posts I penned, er, pixeled on the protests here (wondering what they accomplish), here (favoring persuasion not protest), here (faulting protesters) and here (calling protesters sore losers).
There are many things I would rather blog about than these persistent protests against Proposition 8, but it seems to have become the topic du jour in the gay world and, well, I’m a gay blogger for a gay political blog.Â And I happen to live in Los Angeles which has been ground zero for these outbursts.
This reaction shows the worst of the gay community.Â And because the protests are making the news, people across the nation are seeing this behavior.Â Many of them may come to define gay people by the antics of a few.*Â Not the best way to convince persuadable citizens that states should recognize same-sex unions, calling them marriage.
Instead of throwing public temper tantrums, those who are serious about gay marriage should be holding private (or semi-public) meetings to figure out why why Proposition 8 passed and what can be done to defeat similar initiatives in the future.
In short, we should be best considering how to promote gay marriage.Â Protest is not the solution.Â Intelligent advocacy is.
It would help if more gay marriage advocates actually understood (as Jonathan Rauch does) the purpose of marriage and could explain why we need preserve this ancient institution and extend its definition–and protection–to include same-sex couples.
But, they’d rather focus on the language of rights, when we need discuss responsibilities.
We might then be better served if the gay movement stop styling itself a civil rights movement and redefine itself as a social movement.Â Perhaps then they’ll secure what they call their “rights.”Â Once we make clear the need for social change and start making known many of us are already living those changes, people will come to respect our relationships and soon state legislatures will start recognizing them as a matter of course.
The key is simply to show that we “get” marriage.Â And the leadership of the various gay organizations, particularly those devoted to promoting same-sex marriage haven’t done that.Â Instead of venting their spleens in the public square about the failure of citizens to understand that, they need figure out why they’ve failed in the past, so they can better understand what they need do in the future to change minds.
*It would be nice if a gay organization criticized these demonstrations.
UPDATE:Â Back to blogging at the Malcontent, the ever adorable Robbie agrees:
When defeated at the polls, there are several potential courses of action. One can engage in endless recriminations and purify the movement (or as I like to call it, shallowing the political gene pool). On the other hand, if you’re a particularly reflective person, you could engage in a bit of self-criticism, use the data at hand to understand where you might have gone wrong, and vow to do better in the future
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