Opponents of California’s Proposition 8 claim that in taking issue with those who favor the traditional definition of marriage, they’re standing against hate (or H8, as some put it).Â And while, to be sure, there has been some mean-spirited rhetoric from supporters of the successful ballot initiative, the bulk of the hatred in this debate has come from those opposing the initiative.
In an article in yesterday’s Business section, even the New York Times acknowledged as much:
FOR the backers of Proposition 8, the state ballot measure to stop single-sex couples from marrying in California, victory has been soured by the ugly specter of intimidation.
Some donors to groups supporting the measure have received death threats and envelopes containing a powdery white substance, and their businesses have been boycotted.
In her post linking the article, Michelle Malkin asks, “What took” the supposed paper of record “so damn long?”
I would offer that it upsets their narrative, that the ugly tactics of intimidation are supposed to come from social conservatives, in this case, those opposing gay marriage and not the supposedly progressive advocates of social change..
Now, I don’t hold all gay marriage advocates responsible for the mean-spirited tactics of the most extreme supporters. Indeed, I don’t even hold most protesters responsible, provided they did not carry hateful posters or shout mean-spirited epithets.
That said, it would be nice if they could distance themselves from such tactics by condemning them and pressing for a civil and serious discussion of the meaning of marriage and the imperative of the state recognition of same-sex marriages.
By standing against these angry and juvenile tactics, they would help show not only that they are serious about having that conversation, but also about the importance of extending the benefits and responsibilities of that ancient institution to same-sex couples.
Why are they so afraid to condemn the mean-spirited tactics and rhetoric?Â Does it upset their narrative too?Â Or, are do they approve of such tactics?
ADDENDUM: If you can provide links to any gay groups or blogs condemning these tactics and/or rhetoric, I will link them in this post.