Watching a growing number of left-wing pundits and bloggers trip over themselves to join Perez Hilton in smearing Carrie Prejean, Miss California, for offering a position on gay marriage nearly identical to that of the Democratic President of the United States, we see yet again an interesting aspect of the gay marriage debate.
At the same time these pundits and bloggers use hateful rhetoric to attack Ms. Prejean, they and some of their allies call Prop 8, Prop H8, or Prop Hate. This from GLAAD’s web page, “GLAAD and The Los Angeles Press Club present ‘Prop 8¦ Prop H8?,’ a panel discussion about the impact Prop 8 has had on the coverage of LGBT issues.”
What does it say about them that they choose to define their opposition as haters?
Last fall, I received a good deal of e-mail from both sides of the Prop 8 campaign. In nearly every missive I received from the “Yes” said, the proponents of the measure were at pains to assure me they did not want to take away the state’s domestic partnership program. The language was straight forward. They did not attack. They merely, as did Carrie Prejean, defended the notion of marriage as an institution defined by gender difference.
By contrast, the e-mail from the “No” side was overwhelmingly hostile, attacking supporters of the proposition as mean-spirited. To be sure, not all the e-mails were hostile. Lesbian friends who had gotten married just talked about their relationships.
It struck me how in the Prejean-Hilton exchange and the ensuing hullabaloo, we saw a replaying of that very campaign.
Why must so many gay marriage advocates label their adversaries as haters? Don’t they even realize the irony that they are using hateful rhetoric to accuse others of hate?
What is behind this need to demonize?