In my post outlining a strategy for opponents of the people’s veto of the bill passed by the elected legislature and signed by the elected Governor recognizing gay marriage, I noted (in a footnote) that one of the ideas I was putting forward, featuring same-sex couples talking about their relationships represented a shift in my position.
You see, I had long believed that because of the “ick” factor, the cause gay marriage would be better served by not showing gay couples. Many Americans may not mind what people do in their own bedrooms, just so long as they don’t have to be reminded about it by seeing them together. They’re fine with us being left alone to live our lives as we please, just as long as we don’t do it in front of them.
But, something I read on a left-wing blog (I believe it was Michael Petrelis’s site, but am certain there were others) actually got the gears in my head spinning and caused me to rethink the issue. These left-of-center bloggers (I’m pretty sure it was more than one) lamented the absence of gay people in the “No on 8″ commercials. And said something like,”Why can’t we make the case for our rights.”
And while I disagreed with their choice of rhetoric, I realized that if wavering (and wary) voters say a gay person saying he understood what marriage was all about and was ready to assume its responsibilities, then more people might see that this wasn’t just about a milepost in the culture wars (to paraphrase one wise law professor), but about affirming the values of an ancient institution.
If people see a gay person saying that, it could both change minds and promote healthy and genuine social change.