Earlier today (Tuesday), I received an e-mail from Geoff Kors, Executive Director of Equality California (EQCA), urging me to join a boycott a certain hotel to pressure its owner, Doug Manchester, to “make a public apology” for donating “$125,000 in critical seed money to put Prop. 8 on the ballot.” Reading it, I realized that Kors has learned nothing from his involvement in the unsuccessful effort to defeat that ballot measure enshrining the tradition definition of marriage in the state constitution.
Kors even faults Manchester for “trying to buy off EqCA with a $25,000 donation”!
I don’t see what he accomplishes by throwing this public temper tantrum because the “wealthy hotel owner” won’t do exactly as Kors wants him to do. Nor do I see what a public apology would accomplish. Will it somehow make it seem that those who pushed Prop 8 had sinister motivations which at least one of their number is only now (finally!) acknowledging? Or, will it just make Kors and his cronies feel good to humiliate someone who spearheaded an effort they just plain didn’t like and didn’t want to make the effort to defeat.
Why not take that $25,000 and use it to help further their campaign to educate California voters about gay marriage? To his organization’s credit, EqCA has attempted to reach out to voters in the “red” counties of the Golden State, with field offices in Republican-leaning regions as Fresno, Riverside and San Diego as well as Los Angeles, Sacramento and San Francisco.
But, unless they learn to talk in the same language as the people who reside outside “blue” regions and stop acting like spoiled children when the world doesn’t work out exactly as they’d like it do, they’re not going to do much to change minds and win votes (to overturn Prop 8).
Exposing Doug Manchester to public humiliation won’t further the cause of gay marriage. Talking marriage in the same language of those whose minds they wish to change will.
As they hire and train a new group of field organizers that reflect the ethnic (but not political) diversity of the Golden State, will they be educating them in left-wing ideology, the politically correct language of rights or about the meaning of marriage? Will they be teaching them about the benefits of this ancient and honorable institution so they can explain why it’s good for gay people? And why gay marriage is also good for society, just as traditional marriage long has been.
Kors’s juvenile stunt and adolescent demands will not help further the conversation of gay marriage, though it may make Kors and those who sign his petition feel good about themselves. But, maybe that’s their goal.