Given the recent discussion on this blog (notably in the comment thread to my post on Joy Behar) about whether monogamy is essential to marriage, let me draw your attention to a post Glenn Reynolds linked today on a site that is hardly at the vanguard of the marriage movement. Among her “Secrets to a Long Happy Marriage,” Wendy Atterberry includes some tips on “keeping faithful.” Yes, she acknowledges that people may stray, but leads off her list with this point: “Be aware of the dangers and recognise the urge for what it is: a temporary itch, not to be scratched.” (Emphasis added.)
She thus acknowledges that fidelity is key to a happy marriage. And that once that fidelity is compromised, it takes a lot of work to restore trust, requiring both husband and wife to “work through the problem together, with professional help if” necessary.
In case you miss my point, let me repeat, fidelity is essential to marriage and gay people are capable of monogamy.
It’s just too bad the leaders of gay organizations refuse to say as much.