Over a decade ago, when I was active in Republican politics in Northern Virginia, I tried to convince a friendly, socially conservative woman that gay people were capable of mutually supportive monogamous relationships. No, she assured me, “homosexuals” (she, as I recall, never used the word, “gay”) just couldn’t control their sexual libido (though I think she used another term) unless, of course, they found Jesus and went through an intensive course of “reparative therapy.”
What struck me was not just her intolerance, her parroting of the ex-gay talking points, but the fact that she held to her prejudices even when dealing with a real, live “homosexual” who was trying to tell her about the reality of gay people’s lives. Reality didn’t seem to intrude on this woman’s narrow world view.
I thought of this woman when I reviewed some of the comments to Bruce’s recent post on The American Divorce Agreement (which had been caught in our spam filter). Their authors displayed the same sort of prejudice as did that woman who received her opinion of “homosexuals” from people who had limited, if any, knowledge of such a creature.
Only the prejudice our readers displayed was not to “homosexuals,” but conservatives. It seems they derive their entire knowledge about conservatives from left-wing blogs and the mainstream media. As I case in point, let me offer you “Auntie Dogma’s” comment in its entirety:
As if! Like the conservative freakshow is SOOOOO going to give you gay “patriots” a bunk on their bigoted ark. You’d be the floorshow, babycakes. You’d be walking the plank the minute they spotted a pod of Orcas.
Bon voyage. Enjoy your new home in Palindia — if they let you in. And remember, you won’t be missed.
Once again, someone assumes that American conservatives exclude gays and would prefer us dead. Yeah, there are some right-wingers who would do just that. I referenced one at the outset of this post.
But, since Bruce founded this blog, he and I have been referenced (regularly) on other conservative blogs, included in events for conservative bloggers (I believe he’ll be participating in CPAC later this month) and even offered credentials to the 2008 GOP convention. I’ve been invited to speak to a local Republican meeting and invited to appear on Pjtv.com.
But, facts just don’t matter to some people. They’d rather see the world through their prejudices. And this applies to extreme social conservative just as it applies to leftists.
Oh, and one more thing, that socially conservative lady with her narrow views on homosexuals was civil to me. Wrong-headed she may have been, but nasty she was not.