In his defense of gay conservatives, Doctor Zero addresses just how to promote civil discussion of gay marriage:
I think my own credentials as a defender of traditional marriage are in order. They can be reviewed in detail here and here. I do not hold these beliefs out of animosity toward gay people, or disrespect for committed homosexual relationships. I believe in the positive value of the marriage tradition, and I reserve the right to celebrate that value without denigrating those who don’t participate in it.
The gay-marriage movement is necessarily aggressive, because they seek a substantial change in society. I appreciate the strength of their conviction, and as long as they respect mine, we can have a civil discussion. The temptation to detonate conviction into anger is strong, and counter-productive. I’m no more impressed by Ryan Sorba’s act than I was by Perez Hilton’s.
Well said, very well said. If people are serious about promoting this significant social change, that is, state recognition of same-sex marriage, then they’ll recognize that some people can oppose same-sex marriage without hating gay people. After all, as long as cultures have recognized marriage, they’ve defined the institution as a union between individuals of different sexes.
So, respect their arguments and find a way to counter them (and explain why this social change is a good thing). Yeah, I know I’ve said this before. Countless times.
And he’s right to link Sorba to that other guy. Blowhards are blowhards, no matter what their ideology.
There’s a lot more in his post I’d like to address, but I’m tired and need to wake up early to figure out a way to make a rhetorically smooth transition, in keeping with the theme and style of my dissertation, between Athena’s relationship to Persephone and her involvement in the creation of Pandora, the woman not the planet.