For about as long as I have been out in gay circles as a conservative, I’ve been attacked by gay leftists for being self-hating. Or for being the equivalent of a Jewish Nazi. Or a black Klansman.
I find this insult most amusing because it was once directed at me by a guy who had confessed that he never held a date’s hand in public, something I do regularly I’m dating someone, having just a few weeks ago, walked hand-in-hand with a date from a restaurant on Sunset into the Arclight and to our seats. Heck, when I lived in Virginia, I even took a date to a Republican Christmas party, introducing him to the then-Republican Lt. Governor of the Commonwealth and his lovely wife (current in-laws to one of W’s daughters) as my boyfriend.
Reading the comments to Nick’s recent posts on Constance McMillen and my post on hospital visitation, many caught in the spam filter due to their vulgar content, I chanced upon many versions of the old slur. None of the folks leveling the accusation showed any indication they understood what American conservatism was (or what the GOP stood for), most of those also showing no understanding of the point Nick was making. They didn’t address the point in the post to which they attached their comment. They just attacked the man who wrote the post and the blog where he posted it — not to mention the members of the minority community within the gay community to which he belonged.
So, my challenge to those leveling the “self-hating” slur, explain yourself. Tell us exactly why you call us self-loathing individuals and do so with examples, not expletives.