I’m not quite sure when I first corresponded with blogress Pam Spaulding of Pam’s House Blend. I believe I first became aware of her website when we were in competition for best LGBT blog in ’05.
Thanks to her blog (as well as those of Michael Petrelis and John Aravosis, among others), I have learned that not all outspoken gays on the left march in lock-step with the left-wing lickspittles leading the various gay organizations. These bloggers (and blogresses) don’t define themselves as the gay adjuncts to the Democratic Party, but instead as advocates for gay people.
We may not always agree with them, but we do appreciate their integrity, understanding that Democrats don’t always have our interests at heart.
I believe I first e-mailed Pam to commend her for taking HRC’s Joe Solomonese to task for his obsequiousness toward Democrats. Well, due in large part to our occasional correspondence that ensued over the years, I e-mailed her when I realized I would be passing through Raleigh on my way across country. We met last Monday for coffee and so engaging was our conversation that I totally lost track of the time.
We didn’t agree on everything, but we did share a disdain for the gay organizations. Not only have blogs provided a forum for gay conservatives, something we pretty much lacked before the dawn of the “internets,” but they have also provided a space for left-of-center gays disenchanted with the gay establishment. As I noted above, until I discovered these websites, I was largely unaware of the extent of dissatisfaction among such gays, particularly among activists, with the leadership at HRC and other left-wing gay organizations, many of them often shills for the Democratic Party.
I believe that it is in large part because bloggers like Pam have refused to accept the gay leadership’s acquiescence to the dictates of the Democratic Party that we have seen forward motion on DADT repeal.
I really enjoyed meeting Pam. She’s a great gal and has a really sweet wife (more on that in a subsequent post). Citing a comment a friend had made in New Jersey about how now with the blogsophere for all its merits, many people get information only from their ideological confrères (and -soeurs), I suggested that when I return to LA she and I do a regular point-counterpoint on various issues of the day to promote civil disagreement of controversial issues.
Keep an eye on her blog, particularly on Pam’s posts. If you agree with me on most issues, you won’t often agree with her, but, if you keep an open mind, you could appreciate her perspective. And she may challenge your opinions.