A friend recently sent me a text which I found it difficult to answer from my cell phone. Indeed, can’t really give him an answer even now. At one point in my life, I would have offered a quick and easy answer, but now I’m not so sure how to address his question without relating multiple, often seemingly contradictory thoughts and including numerous anecdotes.
Here, in its entirety, is the text transcribed:
Casual sex: healthy outlet for the single gay or barrier to finding an LTR?
Now, I would lean toward the former answer, but with lots (and lots (and lots and lots (and lots and lots and lots))) of caveats. We are by nature sexual beings. I don’t think it’s healthy for us to refrain from sexual expression (for a long period) just because we haven’t found a life-partner.
As one who tried celibacy for a while, I realize it has many beneficial aspects for the short term, but realize that once those benefits are realized it kind of feeds on itself. (Note to self: finding a better way to express this.)
Perhaps, when I have given the matter some more thought, I can craft a more insightful post. For now, I’ll just pose his question to y’all and invite you to consider it in the comments section below.