One reason I remain skeptical of the sincerity of many of the leading gay marriage advocates is that whenever someone comes out in favor of traditional marriage, instead of arguing with them, they insult them, calling them bigots, haters or worse.
And then there are the more serious advocates of this social change, namely folks like Jonathan Rauch who understand that someone can oppose gay marriage without hating gay people. These individuals take issue with advocates of traditional marriage by acknowledging the points they raise and contesting them with carefully thought-out arguments.
Seems our fellow gay conservatives showed a similar respect for such ideas when Ann Coulter (to her credit) brought up the topic at this weekend’s Homocon in New York. According to columnist Lisa de Pasquale:
Politico reported that there was “nervous laughter” when Coulter addressed the frequent argument that gay marriage is a civil right and akin to denying blacks their rights. Coulter pointed out, both with truth and in jest, “Gays have the highest income of any demographic group in America. Blacks must be looking at gay rights activists in bewilderment thinking, ‘Why couldn’t we be oppressed like that?’”
There was no “nervous laughter” except, perhaps, by a reporter unsure of the location of the 14th Amendment.
Toward the end of her speech, Coulter gave a reasoned argument for traditional marriage. She said, “The purpose of marriage isn’t for society to honor the strong feelings people have for one another, it’s solely and exclusively to provide children the best environment for developing into law-abiding, socialized, productive citizens—so they don’t end up on welfare or mugging us someday.”
There was no booing. No haughty retorts. No one left the room in a dramatic huff. Members of the audience were tolerant not because they’re gay, but because they’re conservatives.
And the reason I say it’s to Coulter’s credit that she voiced her opposition to gay marriage at a gathering of gay conservatives is that we should appreciate people who speak their mind (in a civil tone) and don’t pander to their audiences. How can we take issue with someone’s argument if we don’t know where they stand on the issues of the day, particularly the controversial ones?
Kudos to Coulter for daring to be so outspoken. And kudos to those gay conservatives who attended Homocon for giving her such a respectful hearing.
Now that we know where she stands, we can better take issue with her arguments, should the need arise.