On Friday, a friend posted an icon on Facebook asking, “I was born gay, were you born hateful?”
What struck me was the assumption inherent in this question — and how it parallels the attitude of many in the gay community to those offering views at odds with their own. Advocates of California’s Proposition 8, they claimed, did not favor traditional marriage because they saw the institution as defining a union between individuals of different sexes, but because they hated (or, h8ed) gay people.
Disagreement, one of her friends wrote, “does not equate to hate in any of the studies that I have looked at lately.” Liking his comment, I told my friend, a wise a kind lesbian that I agreed with this friend of hers:
Having spent a good part of my adulthood as an openly gay men among conservatives and Republicans, I have found much disagreement on gay issues and even some (oftentimes crazy) criticism of what some deem the “homosexual lifestyle,” but very little actual hatred. I’ve found more hatred, far more hateful attitudes, among left-of-center associates, including, indeed, especially among gay and lesbian left-wingers.
I wonder (and not for the first time) why those who use such venom in their criticism of conservatives and Christians, must themselves label their critics as haters and their arguments as hateful.