All gay and lesbian conservatives seem to have one experience in common, that of facing the hostile prejudice of our liberal peers. Some (but fortunately not all) of our ideological adversaries ever so quick to deem any opposition to their agenda as “hateful” seem to harbor themselves a lot of hatred toward individuals who do not share their political predilections.
And although we read much in our culture about the animus social conservatives have for homosexuals, we see little coverage of the animus some gay leftists feel for gay conservatives. In the seven years (and three months) I have been blogging, I have received nearly twenty times as much hate mail from liberals than I have received from social conservatives. Why do these people hate so much?
One gay conservative addressed this hatred in a rant that has gotten some attention in the gay media. Now, we may find his tone and rhetoric a bit overblown, but we do share some of his sentiments, having experienced the same intolerance from our supposedly very tolerant peers. And a certain point, you become immune to their taunts and amused by their absence of imagination. Just finding a different means of expressing the trite expression, “Jewish Nazi,” doesn’t make you original.
Dan Savage, the “It Gets Better” project’s co-founder, has been just as vicious toward gay conservatives as schoolyard bullies have been toward their gay classmates. In an MSNBC interview, Savage referred to the members of GOProud, an organization of gay conservatives, as “gay Quislings and useful idiots.” He said they were just “window dressing” for bigoted Republicans. Like a schoolyard bully, Savage ridicules people who are different from him.
And Savage is not alone.
Fortunately, he is not representative of all of his ideological confreres. Many of us have strong friendships with gay left-wingers, some of whom respect us as individuals despite our philosophical and political differences, others who delight in needling us for our differences — as we needle them for theirs.
Yet, there are those who instead of trying to understand why we might be conservative (as did my friend on Facebook), respond with expressions of prejudice, ignorance and hatred. And they pass themselves off at the enlightened ones.