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WeHo’s The Abbey bans “bachelorette” parties

Posted by B. Daniel Blatt at 8:40 pm - May 24, 2012.
Filed under: Freedom,Gay Marriage,LA Stories

Over the past decade, the Abbey has grown into one of the premiere gay watering holes in West Hollywood (if not all of Southern California).  When passing through the Southland, many of my gay friends insist on stopping by.  And as the establishment’s profile has increased, it has drawn an increasingly mixed crowd, including a good number of straight women.

This has not sat well with a good number of gay people.

Perhaps aware of the growing discontent of its core clientele or perhaps because of the reasons it offers, “The Abbey“, reports Simone Wilson of the LA Weekly

. . . is making a statement of its own: Until marriage is an option for everyone everywhere, ignorant straight chicks in penis hats are exiled from the building.

This will be the first all-out ban on bachelorette parties in the Los Angeles area. But WeHo patriots might be surprised to learn that in Chicago’s premiere gayborhood, bachelorette parties have been blacklisted for a few years now. Always one step ahead of us, that Boystown!

Given the complaints I have heard, I wonder if the management of the Abbey has decided to dress up their decision in politically correct rhetoric.  But, its reasons shouldn’t matter.  The Abbey is a private establishment and should be free to determine its clientele — and the types of celebrations it hosts.

And if straight women don’t like this decision, well, then, no one’s requiring them to patronize the Abbey.

FROM THE COMMENTS:  Richard Bell sums it up, “Freedom of association is the American way.”  I might quibble a bit with his expression adding “one aspect of” between “is” and “the”.



  1. Freedom of association is the American way.

    Comment by Richard Bell — May 24, 2012 @ 9:05 pm - May 24, 2012

  2. Richard is right @1.
    And it’s private property. They should be able to include and exclude whoever they wish.

    Comment by Jman1961 — May 24, 2012 @ 9:08 pm - May 24, 2012

  3. Yup.

    And now someone should file a discrimination lawsuit on the basis of sexual orientation and dose the bigot left with its own medicine.

    Comment by North Dallas Thirty — May 24, 2012 @ 9:28 pm - May 24, 2012

  4. straight chicks in penis hats

    I really don’t want to know what that is.

    Comment by Rattlesnake — May 24, 2012 @ 9:41 pm - May 24, 2012

  5. Although this does raise a different issue — doesn’t this constitute discrimination based upon sexual orientation? Or will the establishment also ban equivalent parties marking a civil union?

    And yes, I agree with you that those questions ought to be irrelevant in a free society, the reality is that the government has imposed a non-discrimination regime upon us, and it applies in all directions.

    Comment by Rhymes With Right — May 24, 2012 @ 10:16 pm - May 24, 2012

  6. 43 Catholic Organizations bring lawsuit against Obamacare. 19 seconds of Press Coverage

    Comment by Steve — May 24, 2012 @ 10:19 pm - May 24, 2012

  7. Rhymes–you help articulate why I oppose non-discrimination laws.

    Comment by B. Daniel Blatt — May 24, 2012 @ 10:24 pm - May 24, 2012

  8. ….straight chicks in penis hats

    I really don’t want to know what that is.

    Comment by Rattlesnake — May 24, 2012 @ 9:41 pm – May 24, 2012

    “It’s the stuff that bad dreams are made of.” 🙂

    Comment by Jman1961 — May 24, 2012 @ 10:34 pm - May 24, 2012

  9. #8 is from a movie that was completed but never released:

    The Maltese Penis Hat.

    Comment by Jman1961 — May 24, 2012 @ 10:36 pm - May 24, 2012

  10. I think there’s a difference between freedom of association and businesses that provide services to the public.

    Anyway….the Abbey was more fun when it was the after place you went to wind down after the bars and clubs close at 2am.

    Comment by Kevin — May 24, 2012 @ 10:41 pm - May 24, 2012

  11. My bartender friends absolutely hate bachelorette parties… They tend to be loud, obnoxious and are notoriously bad tippers.

    Comment by Chris H — May 24, 2012 @ 11:24 pm - May 24, 2012

  12. Oh.. and looks like the ‘mos are working the assignment desks at Channel 7 and 4 tonight – just drove by their news trucks parked outside the Abbey

    Comment by Chris H — May 25, 2012 @ 12:04 am - May 25, 2012

  13. Women will continue to be welcomed at The Abbey. They are only barring the parties, not women clientele.

    Comment by Kyle — May 25, 2012 @ 2:17 am - May 25, 2012

  14. I think there’s a difference between freedom of association and businesses that provide services to the public.


    Private ownership, they can do whatever the frak they want, or should be able to.

    Comment by The_Livewire — May 25, 2012 @ 8:42 am - May 25, 2012

  15. Kevin — #14 makes my point.

    The origin of public accommodations laws was to prevent travelers from being denied necessary access to food and shelter. The expansion of the definition of public accommodation to include just about any business — and the expansion of protected classes exponentially — has pretty well neutered the private property and business decision making rights of owners in a dramatic fashion.

    Now will I concede that the sort of protections originally laid out in the 1964 Civil Rights Act were justified? You bet — especially since the discrimination was state-mandated. But a half-century on, that problem has been eradicated — and the notion that the government should be able to ban discrimination by privately owned businesses because it is a bad thing (and i agree it is generally a morally bad thing) except for essential services (hospitals, for example) ought to be anathema to believers in freedom.

    Comment by Rhymes With Right — May 25, 2012 @ 1:50 pm - May 25, 2012

  16. Somebody’s a Battlestar Galactica fan …

    Comment by Cinesnatch — May 26, 2012 @ 1:13 pm - May 26, 2012

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