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The meaning of David Blankenhorn’s change of heart on gay marriage

Posted by B. Daniel Blatt at 3:27 pm - June 22, 2012.
Filed under: Civil Discourse,Gay Marriage

Gay left claims notwithstanding, David Blankenhorn has not come out in favor of “marriage equality.”  That said, perhaps the most thoughtful opponent of gay marriage has now changed his views:

IN my 2007 book, “The Future of Marriage,” and in my 2010 courttestimony concerning Proposition 8, the California ballot initiative that defined marriage as between a man and a woman, I took a stand against gay marriage. But as a marriage advocate, the time has come for me to accept gay marriage and emphasize the good that it can do.

As with anything Blankenhorn writes, just read the whole thing.  Even as he has changed his view, he does not believe

. . . that opposite-sex and same-sex relationships are the same, but I do believe, with growing numbers of Americans, that the time for denigrating or stigmatizing same-sex relationships is over.

Unlike all too many gay marriage activists, Blankenthorn understands both the reality of sex difference and the meaning of the ancient institution.  He doesn’t just favor gay marriage as a sop to a vocal interest group, but as part of a process to strengthen the institution:

I had also hoped that debating gay marriage might help to lead heterosexual America to a broader and more positive recommitment to marriage as an institution. But it hasn’t happened. With each passing year, we see higher and higher levels of unwed childbearing, nonmarital cohabitation and family fragmentation among heterosexuals. Perhaps some of this can be attributed to the reconceptualization of marriage as a private ordering that is so central to the idea of gay marriage. But either way, if fighting gay marriage was going to help marriage over all, I think we’d have seen some signs of it by now.

So my intention is to try something new. Instead of fighting gay marriage, I’d like to help build new coalitions bringing together gays who want to strengthen marriage with straight people who want to do the same.

The man who once made the strongest argument against gay marriage is now making the strongest argument in favor of this expanded definition of the ancient institution.

We should all take his words to heart.

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30 Comments

  1. BIG GAY FRIDAY. . .LOL

    Comment by rusty — June 22, 2012 @ 3:35 pm - June 22, 2012

  2. I think the majority of us who oppose SSM and have the “institution” in mind get worn down from time to time same as SSM supporters.

    Comment by Richard Bell — June 22, 2012 @ 6:18 pm - June 22, 2012

  3. What a moron! Blankenthorn thinks that supporting gay marriage is going to strengthen marriage over all? Really? So I guess he’ll soon be contacting Kody Brown to discuss how expanding the definition of marriage to include multiple spouses will also strengthen the institution. Please! I suspect that Blankenthorn did change his views on SSM as a “sop to a vocal interest group”, and talking about strengthening marriage–something that legalizing gay marriage hasn’t done–is just an attempt to cover up that fact and make the change look like a matter of principle. It’s a trick that only gay “conservatives” who supposedly don’t believe in concentrating on social issues would believe.

    Comment by Seane-Anna — June 22, 2012 @ 6:24 pm - June 22, 2012

  4. Apparently, Seane-Anna is not one who “gets worn down”.

    Comment by Richard Bell — June 22, 2012 @ 6:33 pm - June 22, 2012

  5. I’ll say that the activists have been, paradoxically, the least willing to praise marriage as an institution. About the only comments most of the NGLTF/HRC types have given that I’ve seen about marriage itself (as opposed to the legal benefits are) are:

    1: They don’t have it, and it’s wrong they don’t have it.
    2: Divorce rates mean that you’re stupid for praising it, and that you might as well give it to them. (Two wrongs make a right)

    Comment by NYAlly — June 22, 2012 @ 6:33 pm - June 22, 2012

  6. “Apparently, Seane-Anna is not one who ‘gets worn down’.” No, Richard Bell, I’m not. :)

    Comment by Seane-Anna — June 22, 2012 @ 6:45 pm - June 22, 2012

  7. 5 – 1: They don’t have it, and it’s wrong they don’t have it.
    2: Divorce rates mean that you’re stupid for praising it, and that you might as well give it to them. (Two wrongs make a right)

    I would add; 3: After getting SSM here in NY the activists in NYU, Columbia and other rats nests of the left, claim that monogamus marriage is too limiting for the “community” and wonder if polyamory isn’t a better fit.

    Comment by Richard Bell — June 22, 2012 @ 7:22 pm - June 22, 2012

  8. The Gay Left/Right aka progressives/libertarians continues to ignore replicable, empirical data used by the European Court of Human Rights to reject the social activism of the APAs/ABA and the Swedish model.

    Misinformation Rampant in the Mental Health Field
    http://narth.com/2012/05/misinformation-rampant-in-the-mental-health-field/

    Gay ‘marriage’ not a right, prohibiting gay adoption not ‘discrimination’: European Court of Human Rights (REJECTION OF THE SOCIAL ACTIVISM OF THE APAs/ABA AND THE SWEDISH MODEL IN THE INTEREST OF CHILDREN)

    http://www.lifesitenews.com/news/gay-marriage-not-a-right-prohibiting-gay-adoption-not-discrimination-europe#

    Russians overwhelmingly endorse ‘gay propaganda’ ban

    http://www.lifesitenews.com/news/russians-overwhelmingly-endorse-gay-propaganda-ban?utm_source=LifeSiteNews.com%20Daily%20Newsletter&utm_campaign=448adc7414-LifeSiteNews_com_Canada_Headlines_04_19_2012&utm_medium=email#

    Comment by rjligier — June 22, 2012 @ 9:46 pm - June 22, 2012

  9. “Blankenhorn said in his article that he was stepping aside from the gay marriage fight to focus on other issues in part because of acceptance of gay marriage by elites. Last May he publicly opposed the North Carolina marriage amendment, but voters overwhelmingly passed it by a 61-39% margin.” – Brian Brown

    It invites the question: Who is out of touch here? I see a wide gap between America’s unscientific “gay marriage” polls and voting patterns. In any case, perhaps Blankenhorn values elites over more representative working-class Americans.

    Comment by Ben — June 23, 2012 @ 6:47 am - June 23, 2012

  10. When can we get over this ‘marriage is an institution’ claptrap? Who cares? Why does it have to mean the same thing for everyone? Christ, it’s like being a baseball fan and complaining about football fans not appreciating ‘the institution of baseball.’ How can you go droning on and on about the institution of marriage when you can get married, divorced, and remarried within the span of 24 hours in this country? Who needs this old asshole’s opinion about what constitutes a proper, appropriate, significant marriage?

    I swear to god, how a human being can force themselves to give a shit about this stuff boggles the mind.

    Comment by Levi — June 23, 2012 @ 12:12 pm - June 23, 2012

  11. “10 – I swear to god, how a human being can force themselves to give a shit about this stuff boggles the mind.”

    It matters to me what kind of society I pass on to generations that come after I’ve rotted in the ground. I care that it be as good, if not better, than when I was living in it.

    Comment by Richard Bell — June 23, 2012 @ 12:47 pm - June 23, 2012

  12. And Levi proves my earlier point exactly. As in, 100% exactly.

    Comment by NYAlly — June 23, 2012 @ 1:19 pm - June 23, 2012

  13. Ah, the hilarity of the deluded screaming bigot’s mind.

    First Levi rants this:

    When can we get over this ‘marriage is an institution’ claptrap? Who cares? Why does it have to mean the same thing for everyone?

    But then tries this:

    How can you go droning on and on about the institution of marriage when you can get married, divorced, and remarried within the span of 24 hours in this country?

    Notice how Levi then contradicts himself by insisting that OTHER peoples’ marriages are not appropriate — when he himself has screamed and babbled that marriage shouldn’t have to mean the same thing for everyone.

    Who needs this old asshole’s opinion about what constitutes a proper, appropriate, significant marriage?

    Then why are you giving YOURS about “what constitutes a proper, appropriate, significant marriage”?

    I swear to god, how a human being can force themselves to give a shit about this stuff boggles the mind.

    Comment by Levi — June 23, 2012 @ 12:12 pm – June 23, 2012

    Because you clearly do, you screaming little bigot.

    Anyone notice how Levi has gotten more and more irrational and hateful lately? Looks like he’s starting to realize his Obama will lose and that Republicans will be eliminating the welfare checks and do-nothing jobs that he has used to dodge responsibility for years.

    Comment by North Dallas Thirty — June 23, 2012 @ 1:31 pm - June 23, 2012

  14. Comment by Levi — June 23, 2012 @ 12:12 pm – June 23, 2012

    Lamebrain Levi does a lot of typing, but always ends up posting worthless garbage.

    Comment by jman1961 — June 23, 2012 @ 3:32 pm - June 23, 2012

  15. …..this stuff boggles the mind.

    Comment by Levi — June 23, 2012 @ 12:12 pm – June 23, 2012

    Everything boggles your mind.

    Comment by jman1961 — June 23, 2012 @ 3:34 pm - June 23, 2012

  16. It matters to me what kind of society I pass on to generations that come after I’ve rotted in the ground. I care that it be as good, if not better, than when I was living in it.

    And I’m just so sure that the children of the future will remember the people who opposed gay marriage fondly. They’ll have so much to be appreciative for. I wonder, do you have concern for the coming generations about stuff that actually matters, like the shape of the environment?

    Comment by Levi — June 23, 2012 @ 10:43 pm - June 23, 2012

  17. Perhaps the funniest thing with the truther is he can’t even win gracefully.

    Like others I don’t want to see the institution of marriage changed. I want ‘Fred’.

    Now hush Levi, the adults are talking.

    Comment by The_Livewire — June 23, 2012 @ 10:47 pm - June 23, 2012

  18. -Trotting out the lazy, arrogant “right side of history” argument, followed by changing the subject. Nice try, Levi.

    Comment by NYAlly — June 24, 2012 @ 1:14 am - June 24, 2012

  19. I wonder, do you have concern for the coming generations about stuff that actually matters, like the shape of the environment?

    How about debt and insolvent entitlements? Those are pretty important, too.

    Comment by Rattlesnake — June 24, 2012 @ 1:14 am - June 24, 2012

  20. How about debt and insolvent entitlements? Those are pretty important, too.

    The recession is making the debt worse, and additional spending would help us get out of the recession earlier. More debt now means less debt in the future.

    Everybody knows Republicans only complain about spending when Democrats are in charge, anyway.

    Comment by Levi — June 24, 2012 @ 10:03 am - June 24, 2012

  21. More debt now means less debt in the future.

    Comment by Levi — June 24, 2012 @ 10:03 am – June 24, 2012

    Wow!
    The depths of STUPID that a moron has to plumb to come up with this gem.

    Comment by jman1961 — June 24, 2012 @ 11:08 am - June 24, 2012

  22. The environment, Levi?

    As I demonstrated last week, Obama and the Obama Party oppose clean air and water and believe they should be able to pollute as much as they want because they’re rich.

    You’re not answering because you have no answer, coward. You, like your idols Lenin, Castro, and Che, are on the wrong side of history. People will look back at you and your fellow Obama worshipers and laugh at how deluded, ignorant, and superstitious your so-called “progressive” movement was.

    Comment by North Dallas Thirty — June 24, 2012 @ 11:20 am - June 24, 2012

  23. Jman, once you understand that Levi and fellow “progressives” actually believe that, then you realize why we even had a financial crisis in the first place.

    Seriously. Levi and his fellow liberal doofuses were the ones screaming at the Barack Obama Party to force banks to lend money to them to buy houses that they couldn’t afford, the latest pricey designer clothes, new smartphones to replace their three-month old ones, etc.

    You can spot the mentality from the Choom King himself. Barack Obama was buying vast quantities of drugs and booze in high school and college, but never once actually mentions working. Where was he getting the money? He was shaking down his “typical white grandparents”, who WERE working, but didn’t have the spine to tell Choom Prince Barack to pay his own damn bills.

    Levi is the same way — a lazy, spoiled child of privilege who is trying to use the power of government to compel money from those who work at gunpoint so that he doesn’t have to. Choom Boy Levi honestly thinks that getting the rest of us to pay his weed, booze, and abortions bills constitutes “investment”.

    What it is is money going up in smoke. What does society get in exchange for Levi being drunk and stoned? What value is given to society in paying Levi’s abortion bills? What value does society get for taking money from people who work so that Levi can sit on the couch all day and scratch himself while watching cable TV on taxpayers’ dimes and posting socialist Obama rants over a tax-payer funded Internet connection?

    Comment by North Dallas Thirty — June 24, 2012 @ 11:35 am - June 24, 2012

  24. NDT, I know he believes it (and a boatload of other breathtakingly STUPID ideas, as well).
    I’m more in line with Mark Steyn’s thinking on all of this: that we’ve got too many like Lamebrain Levi breathing free air; people (barely) that have neither the inclination nor the capacity to see reality. BUT, they do get to vote, indoctrinate (brainwash), pass laws, implement policy, protest, coerce, make threats, shit (literally) in public, destroy property, steal from productive people like you and I and very little is done to stop it.
    Meanwhile, the deficit and debt are exploding, the economy is going in the tank again, the European Union is going as flat as a pancake, the Legacy Media play palace guards for this freak who 69.5 million (some dead and some not citizens, of course) voted into the Oval Office and who, all of his disastrous leftist policies, still gets north of 40% approval ratings. Not to mention the fine job this regime does of jeopardizing our national security.
    The only way to reverse course (not slow it down, not stem the tide) is what got this once grand experiment in self governance started in the first place: well, you know what that was.
    Any approach other than that, and Steyn will wind up being proven right: it really will be the ‘twilight of the West’.

    Comment by jman1961 — June 24, 2012 @ 12:35 pm - June 24, 2012

  25. What value is given to society in paying Levi’s abortion bills?

    So that’s the story, huh?
    Lamebrain is a woman.
    Who knew?
    ;)

    Comment by jman1961 — June 24, 2012 @ 12:37 pm - June 24, 2012

  26. The recession is making the debt worse, and additional spending would help us get out of the recession earlier.

    Yes, because that’s worked so well in the past. And if austerity is so “anti-growth,” why is Estonia booming now? They implemented harsh austerity.

    More debt now means less debt in the future.

    If more debt now means less debt in the future, think about how much less debt in the future could be achieved with less debt now.

    Everybody knows Republicans only complain about spending when Democrats are in charge, anyway.

    That’s not true; conservatives (and many Republicans) were complaining about Bush’s and the Republican Congress’s profligacy.

    Comment by Rattlesnake — June 24, 2012 @ 5:45 pm - June 24, 2012

  27. You know, if Levi really cared about the environment, he’d celebrate the work Bush did to restore the environment. But of course he only ‘cares’ about the environment as a bludgeon.

    Now hush Levi, the adults are talking.

    Comment by The_Livewire — June 24, 2012 @ 9:34 pm - June 24, 2012

  28. Levi,

    You clearly believe marriage is meaningless. Why then, do you care to tilt at the windmill?

    Open a gay marriage car wash and hookah den and marry away. Your meaningless certificate of marriage will be more than adequate for a meaningless non-institution and you can make a few bucks in the process.

    But then, suppose you are successful in getting the state to marry everything in sight according to your very strict standards, mysterious in origin as they might be. Things like only two partners, must be over 18, no too closely related kin, etc.

    Now imagine the church going on to a new and improved version of “sanctified” marriage. What are you going to do then? Go after the church for hate speech by implying that the Levi gay marriage and carwash and hookah den marriage is not as “good” as “sanctified” marriage?

    Please give us the putz-eye view of this.

    Comment by heliotrope — June 25, 2012 @ 11:00 am - June 25, 2012

  29. Levi,

    You clearly believe marriage is meaningless. Why then, do you care to tilt at the windmill?

    Open a gay marriage car wash and hookah den and marry away. Your meaningless certificate of marriage will be more than adequate for a meaningless non-institution and you can make a few bucks in the process.

    But then, suppose you are successful in getting the state to marry everything in sight according to your very strict standards, mysterious in origin as they might be. Things like only two partners, must be over 18, no too closely related kin, etc.

    Now imagine the church going on to a new and improved version of “sanctified” marriage. What are you going to do then? Go after the church for hate speech by implying that the Levi gay marriage and carwash and hookah den marriage is not as “good” as “sanctified” marriage?

    Please give us the putz-eye view of this.

    Well that’s some idea. Christian Marriage 2.0? Have at it. So long as the state applies marriage laws equally, you cultists can do whatever you want in your stupid little club. What features would this enhanced marriage have, might I ask? No divorce? Mandatory children? Missionary only? I’m sure that would spread like wildfire….

    Comment by Levi — June 25, 2012 @ 4:23 pm - June 25, 2012

  30. Nicely done, Heliotrope.

    You have, as always, easily tricked the bigoted Levi into demonstrating how he and his fellow liberals are openly contemptuous of and spit upon all the things which society considers beneficial about marriage.

    You’ve also made it clear how hypocritical Levi’s arguments are. For example, Levi regularly screams and whines and cries about the divorce rate as proof that gays should be allowed to marry — but then Levi demands more and more divorces.

    What we have here is a foul and desperate little bigot who has seized on gay marriage as a chance to attack religious beliefs. People are starting to realize that that’s the only motivation for Levi’s actions. Levi doesn’t care about gays and lesbians, given how he supports murdering and telling gays and lesbians who disagree with him to kill themselves. He is a bigot who is using gays and lesbians in a proxy war against the First Amendment.

    Comment by North Dallas Thirty — June 25, 2012 @ 5:08 pm - June 25, 2012

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