Gay left claims notwithstanding, David Blankenhorn has not come out in favor of “marriage equality.” That said, perhaps the most thoughtful opponent of gay marriage has now changed his views:
IN my 2007 book, “The Future of Marriage,” and in my 2010 courttestimony concerning Proposition 8, the California ballot initiative that defined marriage as between a man and a woman, I took a stand against gay marriage. But as a marriage advocate, the time has come for me to accept gay marriage and emphasize the good that it can do.
As with anything Blankenhorn writes, just read the whole thing. Even as he has changed his view, he does not believe
. . . that opposite-sex and same-sex relationships are the same, but I do believe, with growing numbers of Americans, that the time for denigrating or stigmatizing same-sex relationships is over.
Unlike all too many gay marriage activists, Blankenthorn understands both the reality of sex difference and the meaning of the ancient institution. He doesn’t just favor gay marriage as a sop to a vocal interest group, but as part of a process to strengthen the institution:
I had also hoped that debating gay marriage might help to lead heterosexual America to a broader and more positive recommitment to marriage as an institution. But it hasn’t happened. With each passing year, we see higher and higher levels of unwed childbearing, nonmarital cohabitation and family fragmentation among heterosexuals. Perhaps some of this can be attributed to the reconceptualization of marriage as a private ordering that is so central to the idea of gay marriage. But either way, if fighting gay marriage was going to help marriage over all, I think we’d have seen some signs of it by now.
So my intention is to try something new. Instead of fighting gay marriage, I’d like to help build new coalitions bringing together gays who want to strengthen marriage with straight people who want to do the same.
The man who once made the strongest argument against gay marriage is now making the strongest argument in favor of this expanded definition of the ancient institution.
We should all take his words to heart.