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Masculinity Is Good

Contrary to what the feminist left teaches, masculinity is worthy of respect and emulation.

I’ll never forget when I was in high school in the eighties, and I studied abroad in Germany. Not to knock the German men, but I noticed how scrawny and frail most of the guys were. Even as a 17-year-old girl, I found something inherently unattractive about it.

At the end of the summer, when I gathered with other American students before heading home, I was struck by the muscular stature of the young men, and something about them made me feel a sense of relief, as if I were truly coming home where I was safe. I could finally breathe.

I was reminded of this recently when I went to visit my daughter at UNC Chapel Hill. I couldn’t help but notice how the men had changed since I attended college there years ago. So many looked skinny and soft.

“Where are all the real men? Where are the muscles?” I asked my daughter. Surprisingly, she knew exactly what I was commenting on. “They’re all athletes or they’re basic bros in the gym.”

Don’t get me wrong. I know there have always been scrawny guys among us. Nothing against them. But there is something more to this younger generation that was absent even among the less-developed men of days past. They’re not just smaller (because small guys can still be masculine). They’re girly, more feminized. They exude fragility. They remind me of some of the German guys I met back in the eighties.

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Men are less masculine because society no longer respects masculinity as a virtue.



  1. And lately, they have been attacked for being masculine. Accused of rape they have not committed. Accused of harassment they have not done. Being told even looking at a girl wrong is assault.

    Then these same people turn around and get insulted when men won’t flirt with them.

    Enough. Just enough.

    Comment by Craig Smith — September 24, 2016 @ 9:54 pm - September 24, 2016

  2. In Germany, once home of the efficient Prussian Army and the dreaded Wehrmacht, the men of the Bundeswehr pee sitting down…

    And since-when did young American men take a t-shirt off by that strange tuck-the-elbows-inside first and then over-the-head?? In my generation that how their sisters took a t-shirt off, rather than just pulling-it over the head first. And most of the skinny-guys still had abs then — not the pale, pasty twinks and soft overweight guys of today.

    And it’s not just physical. Two generations of pussy “modern feminism” has corroded the psyche of today’s young men.

    “A man being should be able to change a diaper, plan an invasion, butcher a hog, conn a ship, design a building, write a sonnet, balance accounts, build a wall, set a bone, comfort the dying, take orders, give orders, cooperate, act alone, solve equations, analyze a new problem, pitch manure, program a computer, cook a tasty meal, fight efficiently, die gallantly. Specialization is for insects.”
    – Robert A. Heinlein

    Now? It’s tats and loud, obscene nihilism. Two generations of children strapped alone in the backseat while their wannabe parental-units play senseless rap and misogynist hip-hop at 110dB pretending to be “street”. Three generations of “uncles” but no fathers… And THIS.

    Where’s the outrage??

    Comment by Ted B. (Charging Rhino) — September 25, 2016 @ 12:21 am - September 25, 2016

  3. Another part of it has been a long time in coming, farther back than the past two decades, which is that many young men no longer have teenage jobs where manual labor is a requisite. Even when I was in high school at the dawn of the 80s, fast food work required lifting and moving boxes of supplies (cases of frozen french fries don’t weigh that much less than cases of copy paper). There’s also been some homogenization of the workforce, so that jobs are not as age- and gender-segregated as they once were (not in itself a bad thing), which results in many younger males doing tasks that were once the exclusive province of females or older workers—usually with less physical demands. Add to that jobs which the teenage set considers acceptable if not “cool”, are pretty narrow. Starbucks is cool; construction gopher, not so much. Decades ago, male college students employed at a hotel or restaurant would be valets, bellmen, and busboys; today they are likely to be front desk clerks, hosts, and servers, with the more physical jobs going to immigrant workers.

    Yet in job postings today I still notice the phrase “must be able to lift 50 pounds”. There will soon come a day where that will be considered discriminatory to publish. So expect yet another generation or two of wimpy guys at Snowflake U—and more workers imported from somewhere else where actual work isn’t a four-letter word one doesn’t use in polite company.

    Comment by RSG — September 25, 2016 @ 5:33 am - September 25, 2016

  4. Surprisingly there are still alpha males in the gay community. I find it within the bear community and they like the daddy bears or muscle bears.

    Comment by Pawfurbehr — September 25, 2016 @ 7:43 am - September 25, 2016

  5. We went to a first and second grade flag football games yesterday. We knew on of the participants. He is 7, has never had a da at home. His team lost by 7 points. During the post game huddle, one of the boys on his team recalled some of the errors that were made by individual team members. Our young friend was one of the error makers. He came away from the huddle crying. Went to his mother’s arms. She reinforced his crying and the “meanness” of the other player. We heard the comments. They were not mean. Our young friend cried in his mother’s arms for at least 10 minutes. We saw at least two of his other teammates crying. This is a non record keeping league and the boys were crying.

    I grew up in a jock household. Three brothers and a dad who all played football, basketball and baseball all the way through high school. Crying, at least in public, over a comment from another teammate would have been social suicide.

    Comment by TnnsNe1 — September 25, 2016 @ 10:25 am - September 25, 2016

  6. Living in a college town now, I notice that a lot of the straight guys act in a very “gay” manner. Just last night, I was watching a few guys in button-down shirts playing what amounted to “strip pool,” each one unbuttoning a button after failing to get a ball in a hole, and all of them getting egged on by a crowd of other guys. It was an incredibly homoerotic atmosphere. One might say “boys being boys,” but why strip pool? Straight guys trying to prove their masculinity, or some sublimated homosocial impulses?

    Comment by Sean L — September 25, 2016 @ 11:38 am - September 25, 2016

  7. What about women who date loser, Kurt Cobain types and bad boys who hurt them? Are these types of guys, real men?

    Comment by james — September 25, 2016 @ 1:33 pm - September 25, 2016

  8. More Germans died in the 5 years after WWII than did in the war. They were treated so badly Patten said we fought the wrong enemy 6 days before he was killed.

    The documentary Hellstorm covers this.

    Comment by Steve — September 25, 2016 @ 3:33 pm - September 25, 2016

  9. Crying, at least in public, over a comment from another teammate would have been social suicide.

    Much has been said over the past few decades about the negative effects of peer pressure; this is one example in which peer pressure can be a good thing (if not taken to extremes). If you’re a parent who cannot recognize constructive criticism and openly encourages crying over every perceived slight, your kids have no business being in any activity which involves competition. It will however be loads of fun to see them sobbing on their desk as an adult every time they lose a promotion or someone says something “mean” to them at the workplace and HR refuses to act on it.

    Seriously though, the only allowable public instance for 10 minutes of crying is for those under five years of age, and even then they should be placed in a private location after about two minutes. I pity the poor kid; he’s going to have a rough life just from here to adulthood.

    Comment by RSG — September 25, 2016 @ 5:35 pm - September 25, 2016

  10. @ 7, No they’re not. They’re wannabe alpha males and have not clue what it is to be a man.

    Comment by pawfurbehr — September 25, 2016 @ 5:58 pm - September 25, 2016

  11. He is a great kid, polite, funny and off the charts smart. I was flabbergasted when we found out he wanted to play football.

    Comment by tnnsne1 — September 25, 2016 @ 9:18 pm - September 25, 2016

  12. @ 2, I read that link. What a horrible situation for those kids. Some of the commenters as just as bad too.

    Comment by Pawfurbehr — September 25, 2016 @ 10:00 pm - September 25, 2016

  13. It’s hardly a surprise. The same effect was measured in England after WWI and the loss of a sizable percentage of their most masculine men.

    Comment by Southern Man — September 25, 2016 @ 11:55 pm - September 25, 2016

  14. Also, probably the relatively high level of phytoestrogens in the usual modern diet, which tends to feminize males (as well as being a thyroid inhibitor, hello obesity). To avoid this, cut the flax and soy — including vegetable oil — out of your diet; use lard and butter instead.

    Comment by Reziac — September 26, 2016 @ 2:36 am - September 26, 2016

  15. Really, butter and lard?

    Comment by Pawfurbehr — September 26, 2016 @ 6:06 am - September 26, 2016

  16. Masculinity Is Good

    Contrary to the false-and-misplaced gyno-centrism which goes back to the Victorian pedestalization of women, it is masculine virtues which make civilization possible.

    Comment by Ilíon — September 26, 2016 @ 9:36 am - September 26, 2016

  17. To avoid this, cut the flax and soy — including vegetable oil — out of your diet; use lard and butter instead.

    Though olive oil is certainly a vegetable product, it probably shouldn’t be thought of as in the same class as “vegetable oils”.

    Comment by Ilíon — September 26, 2016 @ 9:46 am - September 26, 2016

  18. One underplayed aspect of the building of the Victorian British Empire was the participation in and leadership by a high number of hyper-masculine homosocial and homosexual men looking for success and fulfillment outside the comforts, and strictures, of Victorian society at home. Looking at the biographical-profiles of many of the great colonial and Imperial figures, one is struck by the disproportionate number that “never married”, abandoned their wives for the colonies, married late in life for political reasons, or who are know known or suspected of being homosexual in-orientation if not in-fact.

    In this number I’ll include not-only the known “gays”, but also those more comfortable among men socially and those who had profound and passionate relationships with other men and younger men that didn’t necessary progress to being “sexual” as we would define it.
    – The great explorers, surveyors and adventurer-writers.
    – Those who went to the gold and diamond fields of Africa, Canada and Australia.
    – Those who were careerists in the Royal Navy, and merchant-marine transporting the Wealth of Empire.
    – Those who volunteered for the Indian Army, and other remote colonial outposts.
    – The vast army of careerist in the Imperial Civil Service in India and the Colonies “unaccompanied by wife.”

    I have no doubt that most modern American gay men would feel quite comfortable in the atmosphere of almost any mens-only Gentlemens Club, military mess or naval wardroom through the Empire. [Except for the lack of go-go boys, but I suspect the wait-staff was just as available as now…]

    Comment by Ted B. (Charging Rhino) — September 26, 2016 @ 2:35 pm - September 26, 2016

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