A Virtue Signaling Uber-Social Justice Wanker asks: “Why Can’t My Famous Gender Nonconforming Friends Get Laid?”
My guess: Because “gender non-conformity” is usually an outward sign of massive psychological issues and very few people are willing to date people with more baggage than Aretha Franklin on a European Tour unless there’s a lot of money involved.
I would say that anybody who has trouble getting dates (myself included) either has baggage to deal with, is in the wrong place for what they are looking for, or both.
I know many people who are desperate to find someone but who have significant ‘issues’ (a catchall term) that turn off other people.
Can society today really be all that it is cracked up to be when so many people have such a broad range of mental, psychological, and emotional issues? yes, I know that to some degree they have always existed and to a large extent for hidden, but even controlling for that, the prevalence of these issues has grown substantially in the last 40 or so years.
Plus there’s the whole issue of the “plumbing incompatibility”. If you want to a boy with boy-plumbing, a “boy” with girl-plumbing is an issue. It’s very complicated…
It’s a major reason I do not conflate GLB-issues woth TIXYZ-issues. It hard-enough getting the gays and the lesbians to play-nice together in the dating-schtupping-hanging with bar-spectrum.
I did an image search for the two adults having trouble finding a date. That explains most of it.
The rest of it is explained by the inherent hypocrisy of the Progressive crowd. They will adore you in public and shun you in private. They will adore you in your social circle but will not invite you into theirs. The public relationship with you is for the sole purpose of getting validation from other Progressives. This is what Pokemon social justice is all about. The individual cards do not matter. It is the collection that really counts.
Reminds of younger days when some drag queens got pissed because I wasn’t interested. I tried to tell them I was not looking for a substitute woman, I like guys but most of them just thought there was something wrong with ME. They may have been right but it wasn’t that I didn’t want to sleep with a guy that tried to look like Peggy Lee or Judy Garland. Yep, I’m old, I know.
That Vice post is so close to self-parody that I honestly pity the fools.
And Bingo was his Name-O.
I hate to be so blunt but the truth is that gender non conformists may not be high up on the dating pool. They may be better off paired with other gender conformists. What defines a gender non conformists, someone who went through a sex change and/or someone who feels like a man or woman or both?
1. The authors non confirming friends want to date straight men (so they have a preference but don’t think others preferences matter)
2. They look like beardy men – one wearing blue lipstick and the other one is in a dress. This is not the case of trans girls looking like models and people not even suspecting they used to be guys.
Straight guys don’t date genetic women with 5 oclock shadow, body hair, no boobs, let alone with obvious junk in the trunk. So if authors friends want dates then respect others and pick people who you are their preference to date and if you are after guys with a preference for women and you look like a hairy man in blue lipstick don’t whine about it.
The entire premise is shallowness. While they may be proud of their acceptance among their peers, their search for validation and normalization beyond their narrowly-defined identities (by design) betrays how they really see themselves: outliers. So, they build social personas and ‘careers’ being professional nonconformists while complaining that those who do conform recognize them for what they are: weird, self-absorbed, confused, childish oddities. In heavy makeup, dresses, and body hair.
There’s always OK Cupid for these types
“1. The authors non confirming friends want to date straight men (so they have a preference but don’t think others preferences matter)”
More middle school hypocrisy.
@11, well it’s probably better than Grindr, Growlr and Scruff, those are cesspools
Bah. If all else fails, they can always Craigslist’s “lost+found”.
*try Craigslist’s
@ Pawfurbehr: I used to have an OKCupid account. In the whole time I had the profile, I could count on one hand the number of ftm transgenders and “non-conforming” I ran into, and that only because they put “male” in their gender categories and so showed up in my search results. One of them was a rather cute blonde bear- who identified as “gender non-confirming.” That’ll wilt your banana right quick, I can assure you.
I’ve seen some good-looking female-to-male trans person. I have never seen a male-to-female trans person who doesn’t look like a cross-dressing man. And I think that’s got a lot to do with facial structure.
Dick Gregory wrote, in From The Back Of The Bus, “People in the South don’t care how close you get, as long as you don’t get too big. People in the North don’t care how big you get, as long as you don’t get too close.”
Same principle applies here. Conservatives say, “We don’t care what you do in your bedroom, just be discrete about it.” Progressives say, “Go ahead and shout about your bedroom habits to the world! Uh…just not around me.”
https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/we-welcome-gay-bros-here/
#2 V the K – I think you have it the key to the issue.
I have a friend who plays video games where there is a potential for cross player hook ups. However he is happily married to a woman and is just there for the game. So he said he got sick of being hit on so his avatar is now female but he makes it clear he is a straight male in RL.
I always thought that was weird but he said it works. It goes back to comment #2. Straight women are looking for men (no match in game); Lesbians are looking for women (no match RL since he tells them he is a guy); Straight men (no match RL); Gay men (no match in game). Thus he is right even though it is weird he gets totally left alone in the game with people looking for hook ups.
Sandra may I ask what game?
World of Warcraft?
Second Life and some WOW too
Until I read this article and the comments I did not realize how brillant he was in getting people to leave him alone in a dating/hit on/sexual way.