The mister and I were in Home Depot the other day looking at light fixtures, and an HD employee came up and did the old, “Can I help you find something?”
Said employee had long lustrous hair, a build like a high school middle linebacker, tiny boobs and a deep voice. We both thought (as we discussed in the car later) “Tranny,” but what-to-what we weren’t quite sure. So, what pronoun were we to use, should it come up? Fortunately it didn’t come up.
But I also wonder what if this person wasn’t even a Transgenderina? What if it was just a woman who had been genetically sideswiped? Or what if she was like someone I knew in college who, although female and straight, had a deep voice and a masculine build as a result of steroid treatments she had been given in puberty to fight cancer. If so, would she be offended if I assumed she was a Transgenderina?
This California “Use the Wrong Pronoun, Go to Prison” thing is a minefield. How is anyone supposed to read someone else’s mind and know how to offend them; when even asking them could potentially offend them.