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This Should Never Be OK

Posted by V the K at 7:43 am - September 21, 2017.
Filed under: Gay Culture

An adult gay man remembers how older gay men exploited him sexually as a teenager.

I began engaging in sex with adults when I was 14. An unexpected encounter at a college library where I, alone, found myself being molested by a much older man initiated me into this world. I would return to that same library basement several times a week, driven by my father and often dropped off on my own, seeking something more than just the thrill of the encounter. Every man I engaged with told me how handsome, beautiful, sexy and special I was. Each touched me in a way that, for a moment, made me feel validated and even cared for. And each man left me alone once the encounter was over without a thought to the impact they had.

My craving for this validation pushed me into situations I cannot even imagine risking today as an adult. Riding my bike at midnight across a river, down to a dark and secluded riverfront area to get into a car with a stranger I had spoken to online just an hour before. Spending hours in a dark, dingy stall waiting and holding my breath every time the door opened. Walking down a highway at 2 a.m. to fulfill the fantasy of a man who wanted to pick up a hitchhiker. All in a futile attempt to find that sense of meaning and to believe I was worth something.

The older man – young boy dynamic is a mainstay of gay pornography and  even the occasional mainstream film. It is worth remembering that Barack Obama’s “Safe School Czar” Kevin Jennings bragged to audiences of fellow gay activists about helping a 15 year old boy seek out hook ups with older men he met in bus station toilets. Later, after criticism from the Right {not the gay community} he backtracked a bit and said the boy had been actually 16. The gay community said this made it OK. It shouldn’t have.

The LGBT activist community is obsessed with “gay youth” and is ever so fond of using the word “vulnerable” to describe them. In fact, it is this exact vulnerability that LGBT political activists (and creepy older men) prey upon. The unmistakable message from gay activists — who cannot say the words “Family Values” without a sneer — is “Families are bad and will only oppress you.* Your loyalties should be to the community (and the Party).”

The LGBT world is doing everything in its power to separate young gays from their families and integrate them into the LGBT ‘family.’ While well-meaning from a stand point of outdated ideas of family rejection and social stigma, today it only fosters resentment and risky behaviors. In a better world, they would be told ‘No’ by the men they are attempting to hook up with.

Amen to that. It’s really the responsibility of adult gay men to say no, and not exploit teenagers. And don’t give me this bullshirt rationalization, “Oh, my teenage years were tough because I was gay, so I have a license to act like a teenager in my thirties and forties.” Man TF Up.

There needs to be an unmistakable message that older guys who prey on underage teenagers are creeps who should be stigmatized.

* Although, in fairness, in this case, this kid’s dad let him down, too. He should have been there for his son, but he wasn’t. He should have stopped him from going out and hooking up with older men, but he didn’t. Maybe he didn’t care, maybe he had his own problems (his suicide would suggest that). Or maybe he thought he was doing the right thing by letting his son “explore his sexuality” in a manner consistent with the teachings of the LGBT community.



  1. Remember in stores, it says don’t touch on pricey objects. Well, with gay men, it is look but don’t touch for underaged youth.

    Comment by davinci38 — September 21, 2017 @ 8:36 am - September 21, 2017

  2. I find it ironic that the left who excuses the behavior in fellow leftists, like Roman Polanski and Harvey Milk, castigated Milo Yiannopoulos for talking about his own experience as a teen.

    Comment by Craig Smith — September 21, 2017 @ 8:39 am - September 21, 2017

  3. Milo wasn’t vilified for speaking favorably about pederasty; he was vilified for being a gay right-winger. The pederasty was just an excuse. George Takei said almost the exact same thing as Milo and he is still adored on the left.

    Victor Salva raped an 11 year old boy, and is still directing movies in Hollywood because he is a leftist in good standing. His morality is as bad a Polanski’s, though his movies are worse.

    Comment by V the K — September 21, 2017 @ 8:57 am - September 21, 2017

  4. Chad Felix Greene also tweeted that people who disagree with each other should non-violently coexist. The LGBT’s slammed him for it.

    Comment by V the K — September 21, 2017 @ 9:05 am - September 21, 2017

  5. In the heterosexual community older men with underaged girls is a semi line in the sand (though power, fame, $ and now pro-Islam hysteria in the Left seem to obliviate it- note the Polanski example in regards to fame) and has been for decades.

    However it is just recently when female predators are being called out and prosecuted for male child rape. In the past this was winked at as providing the boy needed experience. I can remember in High School the female Journalism teacher was always secretly dating one of her 14 year old students. Every year a new favorite would be chosen.

    The underage sex of boys was seen as a rite of passage. Books have been written telling of fathers arranging for a boys first time to make him a “man” even taking the child to a brothel.

    The heterosexual community is now trying to clean this up and respect the childhood of both girls and boys (though frankly the Left is keen on pushing pedophilia for both sexes with any orientation as much as possible).

    I think some of the initiation of young gay boys and “helping” them to “find” their sexuality is a spin off of the “male rite of passsage”.

    It is going to take a push by the gay male community the same way it is occuring in the hetrosexual community (note all the female teachers going to jail) to take a stand that this is not right and children should be respected.

    Comment by Sandra — September 21, 2017 @ 9:23 am - September 21, 2017

  6. The worst argument I’ve heard on this topic is, “I was 14 and I sought out sex, so obviously some kids are more mature than others and it’s okay if the teen initiates.”

    Yeah, and kids know what alcohol is and seek it out to prove that they are “mature.” There are considerations that come with a sexual relationship: potential for STDs, power imbalances, etc. A child may know what sex is in a theoretical way, but do they really understand the potential consequences, even if they claim to?

    I’m fine with Romeo and Juliet laws. But the notion that a 16-year-old and a 50-year-old are able to interact on anything resembling even footing is ludicrous. And frankly, I think anybody who espouses it is either stupid or hiding ulterior motives.

    Comment by Sean L — September 21, 2017 @ 10:31 am - September 21, 2017

  7. “I’m fine with Romeo and Juliet laws. But the notion that a 16-year-old and a 50-year-old are able to interact on anything resembling even footing is ludicrous.”

    Hell, as a 28-year-old, I don’t think I’m able to interact with a 25-year-old on an equal footing. My 28-year-old self is vastly different than my 25-year-old one, let alone my 16-year-old one!!!

    Comment by Paul — September 22, 2017 @ 7:19 am - September 22, 2017

  8. Gee, why haven’t we heard from ccp on this thread?

    Comment by V the K — September 22, 2017 @ 8:39 am - September 22, 2017

  9. #8, I have been wondering the same thing. Isn’t silence deemed to be consent?

    Comment by TnnsNe1 — September 22, 2017 @ 9:34 am - September 22, 2017

  10. CCP was suspiciously absent from the comments on the entries regarding the Progressive Sexualizing of Children

    I guess I was supposed to see this and comment on it according to the Thread Police.

    What this man went through as a young boy is pretty sad. He doesn’t say how old he is now, but his experience sounds like someone who grew up in the 1990s or earlier. A much different and scarier time where gay teenagers who really wanted to explore their sexuality, had limited options. These days, at least in environments where being a gay teenager is more acceptable, gay teenagers are able to carry on with other gay teenagers during their initial sexual experimentation stages (as they should have the opportunity to do like any straight teenager). Adult gay predators are still a thing, though. So, are adult straight predators. That’s why it’s important to accept people for being gay. It helps create safer environments for gay kids to grow up and figure out who they are.

    This is all pretty self-evident, though. The Thread Police can go ahead and twist my words into something they’re not.

    Comment by CrayCrayPatriot — September 24, 2017 @ 7:10 pm - September 24, 2017

  11. Gee, why haven’t we heard from ccp on this thread?

    Well, gee, now that I know it exists and my comments are desired, you have.

    I wonder why you haven’t commented on the fact that you’re gay-married to someone 23 years your junior and wrote an article with a picture of a poster equating what you thought was a gay marriage proponent pushing for childbrides. Hmmn, gee, I doubt we’ll ever hear from you on that.

    Comment by CrayCrayPatriot — September 24, 2017 @ 7:13 pm - September 24, 2017

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