Oh, no, you’re not really going to go there, are you? Are you… are you really going to…? You’re going to go there? Seriously? You’ve made up your mind and you’re going there? There is the place that you are going with this take?
OK, then. But remember, you chose to go there.

It’s because, according to the author, trying to rape a 14 year old boy is not the same as paedophilia; for which the victim must be “under 13.” And because criticizing adult gay men for trying to rape 14 year olds makes the Gay Community look bad.
Gay pundits’ overblown protests of disgust at Spacey support the very structure of pedophile sex panic—the hyperventilating reduction of queerness to child abuse—that they are trying to fend off. To be clear, under no clinical diagnostic I know of does a drunken, aggressive, and deeply stupid pass at a teenager qualify as pedophilia. Indeed, one working definition of pedophilia is “ongoing sexual attraction to pre-pubertal children … who are generally age 13 years or younger.”
The author of the Slate piece is “Joseph Fischel (an) Associate Professor of Women’s, Gender, and Sexuality Studies at Yale University and author of Sex and Harm in the Age of Consent (University of Minnesota Press, 2016).”
Here’s the description of “Sex and Harm in the Age of Consent.”
Sex and Harm in the Age of Consent cautions against the adoption of consent as our primary determinant of sexual freedom. Examining the representation of consent in U.S. law and media culture, Joseph J. Fischel contends that the figures of the sex offender and the child are consent’s alibi, enabling fictions that allow consent to do the work cut out for it under late modern sexual politics.
Engaging legal, queer, feminist, and political theory, case law and statutory law, and media representations, Fischel proposes that we change our adjudicative terms from innocence, consent, and predation to vulnerability, sexual autonomy, and “peremption,” which he defines as the uncontrolled disqualification of possibility. Such a shift in theory, law, and life would be less damaging for young people, more responsive to sexual violence, and better for sex.