Seen among the twitters.

Ann Coulter and Jesse Lee Peterson, together at last. Enjoy!

‘Family Guy’ has lowered the bar for crude, offensive, lowbrow humor to depths not even the Glomar Challenger could reach. And even though the show most often embraces the broadest of leftist cliches, there are moments when the show is almost as subversively conservative as South Park. When an entire episode focused on Rush Limbaugh in a fairly positive way, for example. Or when Brian — the show’s atheist liberal Mary Sue (who also happens to be a pompous, pretentious, free-loading, racist, amoral, alcoholic sexual predator) — gets called out epically for his phoniness.

The character of Meg is constantly the subject of abuse by other characters, even though she seems to be the least dysfunctional person in the family. In the episode “Seahorse Seashell Party,” she finally confronts her family about the abuse they constantly heap on her.

My point is that with all the irresponsible, reckless, idiotic behavior in your past, that somehow, heh, somehow you have the nerve, the arrogance to consistently and ruthlessly point out my shortcomings.

Ultimately, everyone concludes that the reason they hate and abuse Meg is that by abusing her, they avoid confronting their own dysfunction and are able to live in denial of how truly screwed up each of them is.

I wonder if the reason leftists are so fanatically hateful toward conservatives comes from the same place. Conservatives, by and large, are responsible people who make responsible decisions most of the time and strive for drama-free lives. The left, on the other hand, celebrates dysfunction. But of course, dysfunction has consequences, and routinely making bad choices will for most people result in a miserable life.

Rather than confront one’s own dysfunction and take responsibility for one’s actions, how much easier it must be to heap scorn and hatred on other people? If your own life is a dumpster fire, how gratifying it must be to call an otherwise together person a “racist” or “homophobe” or whatever this week’s perjorative is. (“White nationalist.”) And even if your individual life isn’t, you probably know people who are dysfunctional, and they probably blame others for their condition, and you do too because it’s easier to go along with your friend then to tell them that the choices they’ve made are suboptimal.

My sister teaches public school in Michigan, the state that put Trump over 300 electoral votes, but just barely. (I guess so many people have left Detroit that it’s harder for the Democrat-UAW Fraud Machine to pump out “votes” like they used to.) She posted this on her Facebook.

Ok- here’s the facts. I voted for me.Yep, that’s right, for *me.* Though the media and Hollywood elite continually told me that if I didn’t vote for Hilary my gay, black, Latino, one-legged, short, tall, woman friends would be doomed, I stepped back and said, “Nope, probably not; I think our society is smart enough and compassionate enough to not let that happen.” (If I’m wrong- I’ll revolt with you- and I’m packing heat.)

The scare that I have every month is what drove my vote. My bills keep going up, and my wages keep going down. My shoulder gave out in May but my son got hurt at the same time. I can’t afford to pay what my health insurance is costing me out of pocket and the deductible from emergency room visits, chiropractic appointments and physical therapy sessions. [VtK Note — Because, thanks to Obamacare, you’re now on the hook for the health problems of people who don’t make good health or economic choices. Imagine what car insurance would cost if you didn’t have to buy it until after you had an accident {pre-existing condition}] So, I have invested in Motrin, gained 10 pounds from being unable to workout and basically accepted defeat in ever sleeping pain free again.

In a year, my son will start college, followed closely by his two sisters. Although Bernie promised “Free Tuition,” I also know that there is no such thing as free in a Socialist society. Going after Big Business in a Government that is built on Capitalism and Free Trade is going to drive those businesses out (of business) Their billionaire owners can afford to close up shop and live for many generations without a second thought. But, my profession counts on employed people paying taxes. If they don’t work, I don’t get paid. Truth. So, when they moved their business away or shut it down, then my neighbors lose their jobs and the small businesses such down.

So, I’m really sorry that have been misled into thinking that your neighbors and friends are bigots and racists when in fact they are just middle America that want to live a happy life without living paycheck to paycheck. Two working adults with Masters degrees struggling because of a decade of social change (supported by a majority of Americans on the left and right) and not one iota of help to the economy.

So, yep, I voted for me. If I find myself in the same boat in four years – or living in a country where people are denied basic human rights- I will vote for change again- and again- and again as long as it takes. But I will not be tricked into thinking that my country will allow all human decency to cease because of my vote.

Kinda related (but mostly not quite worth yet a post of its own): Kids, How to Talk to Your Emotional Failure Parents about the Election:

You know what would be super cool?

Parents who could teach me coping skills. If I’m supposed to crap myself and drown in tears every time something doesn’t go my way I am going to get run over by the Social Darwinism bus before I’m 25.

 

Headed to my hometown this weekend to spend time with my “ultraconservative family.” There will be some dining out at our surprisingly good small town Italian non-chain restaurant, also a brew pub I have heard very good things about, where I’ll be meeting up with a gay Libertarian I only know from the interwebs but seems like a cool guy. I am hoping to find the time to get some shooting in. Followed by a quick trip to another brew pub in the town where I went to college and the purchase of some very expensive imported cheese.

And the perfect traveling-to-the-hometown music for this weekend.

Every major holiday unleashes a flood of articles from left-wing blogs advising their readers “How to Survive the Holidays,” and their horrible, horrible families. (Mostly by telling them to inject left-wing politics and Obama Talking Points into every family occasion.)

Also:

• 14 Ways To Get Through Tense Holiday Family Time Like a Pro
• How to Survive Your Family’s Thanksgiving Arguments
• Surviving Thanksgiving With Your Family
• How to Survive Thanksgiving as a New Vegetarian
• 5 Ways LGBT Youth Can Survive Thanksgiving Dinner with Crazy Uncle Bob

And many, many more

Note the language. Not “How to engage” but “How to survive.” Because, I guess all those Heteronormative Microagression Triggers and contrary opinions are too much for the Special Snowflakes to even live through.

“Thanksgiving dinner is stressful for just about everybody…” reads one of them. No, it isn’t. For normal psychological together people, it’s just about eating and giving thanks. Is that why leftists hate it? Because gratitude is a difficult thing for the spoiled, entitled, and perpetually aggrieved?

Why do leftists need this? It almost makes the members of the left come off as horrible, dysfunctional people, hostile to their flesh-and-blood kin, and incapable of normal, human interaction without guidance from their ideological peer group.

(Hat Tip: Protein Wisdom) Ronnie Cohen is a freelance journalist from San Francisco who writes on social justice and environmental issues. (Oh, boy.)  She has a teenage son, whom she has raised in the all the left-wing dogma of environmentalism and social justice. Now, she can’t figure out how he turned out to be an obnoxious little prick and she’s a total wuss who caters to him.

I can do nothing right in my teenage son’s eyes. He grills me about the distance traveled of each piece of fruit and every vegetable I purchase. He interrogates me about the provenance of all the meat, poultry, and fish I serve. He questions my every move—from how I choose a car (why not electric?) and a couch (why synthetic fill?) to how I tend the garden (why waste water on flowers?)—an unremitting interrogation of my impact on our desecrated environment. While other parents hide alcohol and pharmaceuticals from their teens, I hide plastic containers and paper towels.

I feel like I’ve become the adolescent, sneaking around to avoid my offspring’s scrutiny and lectures. Only when Cory leaves the house do I dare clean the refrigerator of foul-smelling evidence of my careless waste—wilted greens, rotten avocados, moldy leftovers. When he goes out to dinner, I smuggle in a piece of halibut or sturgeon, fish the stocks of which, he tells me, are dangerously depleted. Even worse, I sometimes prepare beef—a drain on precious water, my son assures me, and a heavy contributor to greenhouse-gas emissions.

Read the whole thing, and if you want to learn how to raise a smug, spoiled, self-righteous eco-monster brat, it’s an excellent guide.

There is no mention of a father in the article at all; because Ronnie Cohen is “a strong, independent woman who don’t need no man.”

So, where did the snot-nosed little prick ever get the idea that it was okay to be snotty and obnoxious to people for not being green enough?

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I have been sans internets all weekend — more or less — because of matters related to The Big Move so, no posts. Anyway, on my birthday, I got this text from my son, which made for a pretty freakin’ awesome birthday.  (Even if said birthday had not included awesome food and great company.)

Just wanted to thank you for teaching me to think critically at all times even about religion. I also admire you for being wise enough to know that faith and reason are not exclusive. I think its cool that you can justify your faith using reason. now that I’m out in the world I realize that is rare and precious.

A mother and father in Montgomery County MD (cough… leftist Sithhole… cough) is in trouble with the police and Child Protective Services because they let their children walk one mile outdoors in a safe neighborhood in daylight hours.

On Dec. 20, Alexander agreed to let the children, Rafi and Dvora, walk from Woodside Park to their home, a mile south, in an area the family says the children know well.

The children made it about halfway.

(Related: Why are we criminalizing childhood independence?)

Police picked up the children near the Discovery building, the family said, after someone reported seeing them.

Police on Wednesday did not immediately have information on the case. But a spokeswoman said that when concerns are reported, “we have a responsibility as part of our duty to check on people’s welfare.”

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The Meitivs say that on Dec. 20, a CPS worker required Alexander to sign a safety plan pledging he would not leave his children unsupervised until the following Monday, when CPS would follow up. At first he refused, saying he needed to talk to a lawyer, his wife said, but changed his mind when he was told his children would be removed if he did not comply.

Following the holidays, the family said, CPS called again, saying the agency needed to inquire further and visit the family’s home.

The parents made a choice the state does not approve of, therefore, they must be harassed, monitored, and punished.

Obviously, when a parent is really physically abusing or neglecting a child … beating to the point of injury, depriving them of food, or sexually abusing them… someone should protect the child. But what conservatives understand, and liberals don’t, is that bureaucrats will constantly push the boundaries to expand their mandate and substitute their own judgment for parents.

Do we want the State (bureaucrats) to be everybody’s parent? This is a serious question.

Apple, Facebook will pay for female employees to freeze their eggs:

SAN FRANCISCO (Reuters) – Apple Inc and Facebook Inc will help pay for female employees to freeze their eggs…

From January, Apple will pay both full- and part-time employees up to $20,000 for procedure and storage costs for female employees to freeze their eggs.

“We continue to expand our benefits for women, with a new extended maternity leave policy, along with cryopreservation and egg storage as part of our extensive support for infertility treatments,” Apple said in a statement.

I’m pretty sure that Apple already covered its employees’ *medical fertility problems*. (If that’s mistaken, please correct me in the comments.) Something else must be new here. What is it?

Could it be, a benefit for egg-freezing as a pure career move? Let’s see:

“We want to empower women at Apple to do the best work of their lives as they care for loved ones and raise their families.”

NBC News reported on Tuesday that Facebook recently began covering egg-freezing for non-medical reasons…

Egg freezing is a pricey but increasingly popular option for women. It enables women to delay child bearing…

A sign of the times. Now that Facebook/Apple woman can freeze her eggs at 30, work years of 80 hour weeks, and then at 50 when she’s pulling 300K a year (and naturally infertile), pay a surrogate to do that other part of her life for her – you know, having kids from her eggs.

Honestly, I see nothing wrong with it – if she’s doing it all with her own money. The issue I see here is, Apple and Facebook are choosing to engage in a form of discrimination against their employees who don’t make (or shall we say, don’t need to make) that particular, optional choice.

Remember, the money comes from somewhere: the overall “employee comp” budget. Rather than pay tens of thousands of dollars for a hugely *optional* procedure for a special category of employee, why would Facebook/Apple not raise all employees’ bonuses by (say) a thousand dollars? That would empower far more women (and men, and transgenders) and be much more fair.

The free market will (or should) ultimately decide if Apple and Facebook have done the right thing here. In the meantime, some people appear not to grasp that freezing your eggs – purely as a career move – is optional:

“Egg freezing gives women more control,” said Jennifer Tye, marketing lead for Glow, a mobile application aimed at helping women avoid pregnancy or conceive.

“When I turned 30, I had this notion that my biological clock was ticking, but I didn’t know what my options were,” said Tye.

Really? At 30, she didn’t know what her options were? I hope she was misquoted; if not, it’s mind-boggling stupidity.

Olympic Gold Medalist David Wise is married with a wife and a young daughter; he attends church regularly. To NBC, this constitutes an “alternative lifestyle.”

At such a young age, Wise has the lifestyle of an adult. He wears a Baby Bjorn baby carrier around the house. He also attends church regularly and says he could see himself becoming a pastor a little later down the road.

The Mainstream Media is baffled by young 20-somethings who choose to live as adults; especially when the MFM has worked so hard to ensure they can live on their parents health insurance until age 26, stay in school until their 30’s, and delay marriage and family until the front end of middle age.

Amy Glass hates that some women have chosen to find happiness in marriage and family life.

Every time I hear someone say that feminism is about validating every choice a woman makes I have to fight back vomit.

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Having kids and getting married are considered life milestones. We have baby showers and wedding parties as if it’s a huge accomplishment and cause for celebration to be able to get knocked up or find someone to walk down the aisle with.

Apparently, she has a lot of bitterness toward marriage and family, as evidenced by her other posts.

Studies consistently show that women who choose marriage and family life are happier than bitter feminists. Unfortunately, the dominant strain of feminism is closely aligned with left-wing collectivism; individuals achieving their own happiness through their own choices is not an acceptable paradigm. The Sisterhood (meaning the feminist leadership) will support only those choices that empower The Sistershood (meaning those who have positioned themselves at the top of the feminist leadership).

And maybe it’s just a case of turning sour grapes into bitter Feminist whine.

Bitter, shrill feminist Amanda Marcotte supports same-sex marriage.

Bitter, shrill feminist Amanda Marcotte is offended by traditional heterosexual marriage and mocks those who think it’s good for both men and women. (And manages to wedge in the long discredited myth that women earn 23% less than men.)

Discuss.

Jeff’s brief post on Friday linking to a piece in The Onion has generated one of the longer discussion threads here in recent months at GayPatriot.  At the risk of mischaracterizing or oversimplifying it, much of the discussion has centered around the policy goals of gay activists of various stripes, as well as whether or not, criticizing or finding fault with some of those goals means one sympathizes with the aims of various anti-gay activists.

I think it is well-known to most regular readers that several of the contributors at GayPatriot, for instance, are either ambivalent or agnostic about the policy questions regarding same-sex marriage.  I, for one, feel that the courts are the wrong place for the argument over so-called “marriage equality” to proceed and that it is better taken up through the legislative process.  Likewise, I don’t feel that one needs to call it marriage if doing so antagonizes a significant portion of the populace who feel that marriage has a traditional meaning which they would rather not modify.  I’ve said before and I’ll say again that what we’re really talking about when we talk about same-sex marriage is a matter of  1). how the state recognizes a contractual relationship between two individuals, and 2). whether or not it has any business granting special privileges to those in a “traditional marriage” which it does not grant to others.  I’d argue that a debate that focused on the desirability of certain policy choices would be much more productive and much more worthwhile than one centered on emotional claims about “rights” and “equality.”  I’d also say that a more dispassionate debate about the implications of policy is more in keeping with both conservative and libertarian principles.

My aim today, though, is not to revisit that debate or to consider the implications of the recent Supreme Court decisions on those issues (though I’m still planning to do so in a future post), but to bring up some of the questions raised by the fact that today New Jersey became the second state (after California) to ban “conversion therapy” for gay youths.  My personal view on the issue is that “conversion therapy” doesn’t work in most cases and, to the extent that it is practiced, it should really only be viewed as an option for adults who choose to willingly commit to it.  In other words, New Jersey’s ban is in accord with my personal view on the matter, and yet, for philosophical reasons, I’m still bothered by some aspects of the legislation.

Neo-neocon expresses reservations similar to mine when she writes:

It is no use pretending that therapy—and the licensing of therapists by the state—is not at least partly a political endeavor subject to political fashion rather than a science. Nor should therapists be completely unrestricted. For example, therapists are already prohibited from sexual contact with patients—even willing patients, even adult patients—because it is considered inherently exploitative. But the most harmful practices that could be used by conversion therapists (for example, electric shock) could be banned without banning the entire enterprise. And as the articles point out, mainstream therapy organizations have already condemned conversion therapy and do not advocate it.

But apparently none of that would be enough for the advocates of this bill; the therapy itself must be defined by the government as inherently and unfailingly abusive (what’s next, taking children away from parents who don’t applaud and celebrate their gayness?) As the nanny state grows, so will these essentially political moves by the government. This bill opens the door for a host of governmental abuses in which the state dictates the enforcement of politically correct thought through the mechanism of so-called therapy, and therapists become the instruments by which the public is indoctrinated in what is currently politically acceptable and what is verboten.

Chilling, indeed.

At the risk of invoking the “slippery-slope” argument, I can’t see a way around the concerns that Neo-neocon expresses.  I’d have preferred to let the market regulate itself without getting the state involved in this way.  Once the state has weighed in on this question, though, where can we expect it to weigh in next, and will it ever stop trying to regulate the way parents raise their children?  I can’t see that it ever will.

It’s an unfortunate reality that many gay kids grow up in homes that are not especially loving, nurturing or supportive.   The state, though, is none of those things, either, no matter what the expressed intentions of lawmakers might be.  Increasing the reach of the state into individual lives should not be a comfort to any of us.

On matters political, I often lock horns with my sisters. In our family, the men lean Republican, the women Democratic. But, today the elder of my two sisters had a letter published in the New York Times with which I agree wholeheartedly:

I disagree with David Brooks when he says you should travel to Africa if you truly wish to save a dying child (“The Way to Produce a Person,” column, June 4).

You cannot save a dying child simply by being present. To save that child, you need a doctor as well as money to pay for that doctor and the many other components needed to save and maintain a life such as medication, food, clothing and shelter.

I laud Jason Trigg’s decision to earn large sums on Wall Street and donate that money so others can continue their direct services on the ground.

Some of us are firmly committed to helping those in need and willing to battle on the front line, but we need the money that Mr. Trigg earns and donates to continue our work.

She’s right.  Compassionate individuals can better help those in need with the resources of those who have been successful in profitable fields of endeavor.

If you want to help my sister assist the less fortunate of Westchester County, join me in making a donation to the Sharing Shelf, a program she started that provides new and gently used clothing to need children.  (Just type “Sharing Shelf” into the “Designation” Window.”)

Why do some nations’ birthrates fall? And can Big Government boost them?

[Germany] spends some €200 billion ($270 billion) on promoting children and families per year…But its birth rate, at 1.39 births per woman aged 15 to 49, remains among the lowest in Europe…

…The web of benefits is so complex that even experts don’t fully grasp it: There’s a “child supplement,” “parental benefit,” an “allowance for single parents,” a “married person’s supplement,” a “sibling bonus,” “orphan money” and “child education supplement,” not to forget the “child education supplementary supplement.”

The article suggests that the reason that German women don’t have kids is because the government isn’t funding enough daycare and preschools to make it easy for them.

I have a different theory. My guess is that birthrates fall:

1. because living standards rise. (Kids stop being a help on the farm; start being expensive.)
2. and because the Welfare State gives people the illusion that government will take care of them in old age.

My second point would mean that Big Government measures won’t, over time and on average, raise a nation’s birthrates. The more the State does – the more it hands out benefits and asserts its dominance in citizens’ lives – the less urgent its citizens will feel about procreating. Agree/disagree?

Like many of those who are more supportive than critical of the National Rifle Association, I have struggled mightily this weekend not to respond to friend’s Facebook posts holding the organization responsible for Friday’s shooting in Connecticut.

Horrified, as we all are, by what happened, they want to pin the blame on someone and choose an outfit of which they have long been critical.  Perhaps, it makes them feel better.  Or perhaps, it helps them make sense of actions which transcend the understanding of rational, civilized people.

As the ancient Greeks so well understood, we will never fully understand the irrational.

What makes this one so particularly painful was the murder of twenty children, none older than 7.  And that they were killed in a season where most of us celebrate with our families.  Twenty-seven families will have less to celebrate this year, feeling the loss of a child, a girlfriend, a wife, a sister, an aunt or a mother.

It is those murdered individuals and the families we should be thinking about right now.  As a nation, we are united in grief.  Yes, there is political rhetoric to criticize and media behavior to condemn, but in criticizing it, we lose sight of what really matters.

Some people get it.  I have seen numerous Facebook posts from friends on both sides of the political aisle and those about whose political leanings I know nothing who have offered touching tributes to the fallen as well as gentle reminders to cherish our family and friends. (more…)

I want to apologize for not blogging for the past two days. I have just returned from a trip to the Bay Area to meet my new nephew. And shortly after his bris, it was time to attend Yom Kippur services.

Yesterday, while still in the Bay Area, I checked the blog only briefly, had thought to write, but decided to spent more time with my Mom, my sister and her boys.

Back in LA now, and hope to get back to regular blogging soon.

This past weekend, as a favor to my sister and brother-in-law, I drove up to the Bay Area so they could have an adult in the house with their three-year-old son while they shared a romantic evening at a nearby hotel.  Of course, this favor was a duty most pleasant as I had the chance to hike with my sister and spend countless hours playing trucks, running races, imitating pirates and dancing the dragatusi (sometimes known as the dragon-tusi) with my nephew.

When his parents were away, that precocious young man had a nightmare, waking in tears.  I rushed to comfort him, but he wanted his Daddy, asking me repeatedly where his father was.  I assured him that Daddy was coming back the following day.

None of Andrew Breitbart’s relatives will be able to provide a similar assurance to his children.  Today, we in the conservative movement mourn a man John Hinderaker called “irreplaceable“.  But, our loss pales in comparison to his children’s.  And his wife’s.  One hopes, one prays, that she has the strength to comfort them in this trying time.  And that she has relatives who can support her in the difficult task of raising children who have lost their father.

“He was kinetic,” wrote Michelle Malkin, “brash, relentless, full of fight, the bane of the Left, and a mentor to the next generation of right-wing activists and citizen journalists.”  And a father to four children.

Other bloggers have talked about his contributions to the conservative movement, how in the words of one, he “lived large“, following “his own path” and doing what he thought to be right — “no matter whom it offended or how it affected his own personal bottom line.”  Another called him “a friend and mentor“, with his family losing “a caring husband, a wonderful father and their center of gravity.”

Indeed, as yet another put it, he was not just “a brave warrior” and a “great guy”, but also a “committed family man.”  And his family will feel his loss even more deeply than we do.

May he rest in peace and may the Holy One provide comfort to his family.

Perhaps I should not have offered that “personal note” I had offered yesterday.  With Bruce busy and me manning the fort, sometimes it seems I can’t meet the expectations of our readers for regular content on a variety of issues, particularly those of concern to our community.  Especially when I have other projects to complete and when there are others issues are on my mind.

When I posted the piece, I expected some understanding commentary — from our defenders and our critics, instead witnessed the return of a troll, arriving not to address the point of the post, but to attack me personally and gay conservatives in general, basing his bile not on anything I had said, but on aspects of my biography he assumed to be true, but none of which having in fact any basis in reality.

Indeed, some were in direct opposition to the facts of my life, some he might have discerned had he read my posts.  For the record, I have a very strong relationship with my father whom I see several times a year even though we live in different states.  He knows I’m gay and loves me for the man I am.

Our relationship has strengthened since I came out to him, perhaps because my coming out caused him to ask questions about an experience that was foreign to him — or perhaps because fathers and sons oftentimes become closer in adulthood.  (And that is all I will say — all, for the purposes of this blog, that needs be said.)

Why someone would want to make assumptions about my relationship to my family is beyond me.  This blog should be a forum for discussion, not insinuation.

I am grateful to ur reader Rattlesnake for not mincing words when he took our critic to task: (more…)