Back when I was in law school, I would, from time to time, run with a lesbian quite open about her sex life. Unlike most women (I had theretofore met) of her orientation, she liked to sleep around (with women) and watch gay (male) porn.
At the time, I had thought this was one of her quirks, but as time passed, I met other women who love women who enjoy watching films featuring men, well, sexing other men. I had heard there was a scene in last year’s The Kids Are All Right where a lesbian couple watches just such a film. Well, the DVD just arrived from Netlix; I watched it last night. (It’s a good flick, well worth your time.)
Early on, Annette Bening‘s Nic asks her life-partner Jules (Julianne Moore) if she wants to watch a movie. A “movie movie,” Jules responds, all excited. They’re going to watch two men, well, enjoying each other’s company in the back of a pickup truck. Nic laments that the men’s chests were waxed (less of that masculine hair?).
When their son learns of their interest in such all-male cinema, he asks “Why do you guys watch gay man porn?”
Nic tries to dodge the issue, but Jules offers an explanation:
Well, sweetie, human sexuality is complicated and somethings desire can be, you know, counterintuitive, you know, um, for example, because woman’s sexual responsiveness is internalized, sometimes it’s exciting for us to see responsiveness externalized like with a penis.
As her beloved speaks, Nic has a quizzical expression on her face. The explanation doesn’t work.
She may be perplexed about the explanation. I am perplexed about the phenomenon. We gay men tend to prefer porn featuring guys doing things we fantasize about doing. And these guys often tend to be the type we fantasize about doing them with.
So, why do some gals like to watch individuals about whom they don’t even fantasize — or with whom they don’t seek intimate relations — going at it?
Jus’ wondering. (Yeah, I know I’m not the first to wonder at this phenomenon.)