Science, where would we be without it:

In a new study, published in The Journal of Social Psychology, straight men were found to be more physically attracted to other men after a few drinks.

“Most notably, alcohol intake was related to increased sexual willingness of men with a same-sex partner, suggesting a potential shift in normative casual sexual behavior among heterosexual men,” wrote the authors in the study.

HT: Peter H

All those Democrat Journalists attacking Mike Pence for his monogamous commitment to his wife are demonstrating worse morals than Family Guy’s Glen Quagmire.

Oh, hell no. In fact, there’s a lot of people who shouldn’t be allowed to vote.  Stupid voters produce stupid politicians. Like the one who said Guam was going to tip over from the weight of military equipment on the island. Or the glittering jewel of stupidity who describes herself as a “freed slave,” thinks there are still two Vietnams, and that Neil Armstrong landed on Mars.   These people would not be in positions of power if there were minimum standards of civics for voting eligibility. Before you can vote, you should be required to pass the same test legal immigrants must pass for citizenship, at a minimum.

I was thinking about that when I read this: (Snipped)

Every four years, celebrities and movie stars look earnestly into the camera and tell the country to “get out and vote.” They tell us it’s our “most important civic duty,” and they speak as if the very act of casting a ballot is more important than the outcome of the election. This strikes me as somewhat hysterical. Does anyone actually believe that Leonardo DiCaprio, Ellen DeGeneres, and Ed Norton would encourage the “masses” to vote, if they believed the “masses” would elect Donald Trump?

Regardless of their political agenda, my celebrity pals are fundamentally mistaken about our “civic duty” to vote. There is simply no such thing. Voting is a right, not a duty, and not a moral obligation. Like all rights, the right to vote comes with some responsibilities, but lets face it – the bar is not set very high. If you believe aliens from another planet walk among us, you are welcome at the polls. If you believe the world is flat, and the moon landing was completely staged, you are invited to cast a ballot. Astrologists, racists, ghost-hunters, sexists, and people who rely upon a Magic 8 Ball to determine their daily wardrobe are all allowed to participate. In fact, and to your point, they’re encouraged.

The undeniable reality is this: our right to vote does not require any understanding of current events, or any awareness of how our government works.

So no, Jeremy – I can’t personally encourage everyone in the country to run out and vote. I wouldn’t do it, even if I thought it would benefit my personal choice. Because the truth is, the country doesn’t need voters who have to be cajoled, enticed, or persuaded to cast a ballot. We need voters who wish to participate in the process. So if you really want me to say something political, how about this – read more.

Remember – there’s nothing virtuous or patriotic about voting just for the sake of voting, and the next time someone tells you otherwise, do me a favor – ask them who they’re voting for. Then tell them you’re voting for their opponent. Then, see if they’ll give you a ride to the polls.

If there were standards, we might get politicians who were elected on the basis of intelligence and policy; and not because millions of idiots were convinced that Mitt Romney was going to outlaw tampons.

Los Angeles first openly gay policeman is charged with domestic violence against his husband.

Retired Sgt. Mitchell Grobeson, 57, was arrested Friday after a nearly four-hour standoff inside a West Hollywood home before he surrendered to a sheriff’s SWAT team.

Grobeson is being held on $250,000 bail on suspicion of corporal injury to a spouse, according to a statement from the Los Angeles County Sheriff’s Department. He was charged with assault with a firearm and criminal threats stemming from a domestic dispute with his husband that led to Friday’s standoff.

And before anybody tries to claim he wasn’t a gay activist, he was most definitely A gay rights activist.

Sgt. Mitch’s indominable spirit and compassion enabled him to take a stand against injustice and become the LAPD’s first openly gay officer. Following the publicity from his groundbreaking lawsuit against the LAPD’s discriminatory practices, Sgt. Mitch created the first formal support group for Southern California gay and lesbian law enforcement, fire, rescue and paramedic professionals. Sgt. Mitch also formed and hosted the first Statewide and National conference of gay officers in California.

Just a little something to remember the next time a leftist tries to indict all of conservatism for the misbehavior of an individual conservative.

Hat Tip: Peter H

The North Carolina Values Coalition — which is listed as a “hate group” by GLAAD and the Southern Poverty Law Center (Mission Statement: “It takes one to know one.”) — has successfully forced the president of the Charlotte North Carolina LGBT Chamber of Commerce to resign.

Sevearance-Turner was arrested in 1998, when he was 20, and charged in Cherokee County, S.C., with a “lewd act, committing or attempting a lewd act upon a child under 16.”

A 2000 story in the Spartanburg Herald-Journal said Sevearance-Turner had been a youth minister at a church in Gaffney. A jury there found him guilty of fondling a 15-year-old teenage church member while the boy slept.

Before he stepped down as chamber president, Sevearance-Turner said the N.C. Values Coalition’s criticism “did not surprise him.”He said his conviction had not stopped him from achieving success, such as being chamber president.

Of course it didn’t. An this is, like, totally not fair because straight people never get marked for life when convicted of sex offenses with minors.

So, he’s out of a job, but on the plus side, the “community” still supports him and Hillary’s going to need a Safe School Czar at some point.

So, apparently, Vermont is going to try and out-Folsom Folsom Street. (I won’t say the link is NSFW (no nudity) but I wouldn’t click on it at work).

The Rough Stock Roundup is a private event similar to the Horse Fairs (Fickstutenmarkt) that take place in Europe.

At our events willing mares offer themselves to stallions. But at our Roundups, there are also cowboys who can ride either mares or stallions, or even rope them together and ride them both. Like all roundups, there are event guidelines and registration regulations.

Before the roundup begins, each participant decides whether he wants to be a mare, a stallion, or a cowboy. Cowboys must be interviewed and approved by The Master of the Horse.

Hey, you know what? This isn’t my bag, but if people want to do this sort of thing in a private location, it’s none of my business. As long as no one is coerced into participating, as long as no one is coerced into accepting this as normal, and as long as no taxpayer money is involved, it’s none of my my business.

There’s an old expression that goes “I don’t care what they do as long as they don’t do it in the street and scare the horses” that has never been more appropriate.

Commenter Sean L laments the difficulty of finding a solid man in a world of “narcissistic brats.”  Finding worthwhile companionship in the college and post-college years has always been a challenge. But there is reason to believe that it is harder for current twentysomethings. I have three sons in their twenties. All of them are straight, but one is quite Metrosexual and displays a lot of the shallow narcissism Sean L laments, although the rest of us just call it “Douchebaggery.” I am wondering where it comes from; why do so many 21st Century men want to be whining little pussies?

To me, the answer lies in the feminization of the culture. The culture we live in certainly prolongs adolescence and irresponsibility. It even extends into our laws, where 26 year olds are treated as children for purposes of Obamacare. Also, feminism and the sexual revolution have done a great deal to abolish masculinity, especially so on the blue coasts, but every part of the culture is feeling it.  There have been a number of books on the subject, including the latest, Heavy Lifting: Grow Up, Get a Job, Raise a Family, and Other Manly Advice by NRO’s Jim Geraghty and radio talk-show host Cam Edwards.

Once upon a time, men in their twenties looked forward to settling down and having children.

Today, most young men seem infected by a widespread Peter Pan syndrome. Unwilling to give up the freedom to sleep late, play video games, dress like a slob, and play the field, today’s men wallow in an extended adolescence, ostensibly unaware that they’re setting themselves up for a depressing, lonely existence.

Feminists have made normal romance, courtship, and marriage a minefield of potential traps for the incautious male. There are no more rewards for growing up, only penalties. Does that explain the whole state of maleness today? Or are there other factors. I am just throwing this out there for conversation. I really don’t know.

An article in the Progressive Left “The Atlantic” magazine/website (the same place that let Andrew Sullivan spew his deranged conspiracy theories about the parentage of little Trig Palin) uses sympathetic portrayals of groups of people in Denobulan-style arrangements of multiple ongoing sex partners as worthy of normalization. No, not just normalization, these brave pioneers should be praised and celebrated.

Polyamorous people still face plenty of stigmas, but some studies suggest they handle certain relationship challenges better than monogamous people do.

“Polys” are more likely to be liberal and educated, she said, and in the rare cases that they do practice religion, it’s usually paganism or Unitarian Universalism.

Liberal! Educated! Pagan! Hip! They handle relationships better! Why, it’s almost as though the left is trying to convince everyone that polyamorous people are just plain better (in progressive terms) than stick-in-the-mud traditionally monogamous people.

It’s so unfortunate that no one — NO ONE — could have predicted that this would be a consequence of normalizing gay marriage.

Fact: New cases of syphilis are rising rapidly among gay and bisexual men.

Fact: As much as 60% of black men in urban areas will have HIV by Age 30.

The Progressive Left’s agenda of promoting promiscuous sex without consequences is going gangbusters, isn’t it?

So…. anyway, enjoy your Saturday night.

Take it away, Throbert McGee

Daniel Simmons, a deputy attorney general in Delaware, has admitted to “fourth-degree rape” (Delaware-ese for “statutory rape”) of a 16-year-old boy that he met through Grindr.

Having read between the lines in the news accounts, I would surmise that the boy quite happily agreed to go to second or third base with the 34-year-old Mr. Simmons (who’s not at all bad-looking), but then Simmons decided to “steal home” and was rather rough about it.

Whether this has political relevance, I’m not sure. Simmons almost immediately confessed after his arrest, presumably because he was struck by Remorse of Conscience and realized it was terribly wrong for an adult man to use an LGBT teenage boy as a FleshLight®. (Or, possibly, the mofo is just setting the stage for a plea bargain, because he knows that he was actually guilty of offenses beyond “fourth-degree rape.”)

So it’s possible that the RainbowBorg won’t be too interested in circling the wagons around Daniel Simmons and claiming that he’s being railroaded by a kangaroo court because of his sexual orientation.

But stranger things have happened…

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In Nancy Pelosi’s Progressive Utopian Collective known as San Francisco, an “artist” has converted a delivery truck into, essentially, a rolling bathhouse.

The Hook-Up truck – a conceptual “art” installation consisting of a box truck converted to a sex suite on wheels, including temperature controls, birth control, safe sex accouterments, and a camera option, in case you and yours decide to make the escapade a YouTube sensation, is finally open for service the weekend of May 2nd and 3rd.

“This is a game for adults who want to play with sex,” says Emerson. “You have to be nice, and cool,” she said, adding “No Drunks!, but everyone is welcome to join us. There will be a party going on all the time!”

The lefty collective known as The New Republic is as fanatically pro-Gay Marriage as the left thinks everybody is supposed to be; i.e. the “right” to a piece of paper signed by a bureaucrat that legitimizes a gay relationship trumps any other economic or political consideration.

The TNR Collective is now on record as demonstrating their respect for committed, monogamous relationships by advocating that they be discredited and discarded as a social institution.

The current model of lifelong, cohabiting monogamous partnership has never been such an outdated ideal.

And from there, the author proceeds to trash the entire notion of committed, monogamous partnership in favor of a more selfish ideal of using partners for gratification on an as-needed basis and discarding them when no longer needed. The author is also strongly in favor of children growing up without fathers.

If you think life-long commitment is still needed to start a family, a replacement for that has been found too. Earlier this month it was reported that the number of single women seeking artificial insemination with a sperm donor has doubled in five years.

There is no way that this cultural trajectory ends well.

I’m not going to reproduce the latest nasty, mean-spirited comment (in Tweet form) from the gay community’s self-appointed Moral Arbiter; suffice it to say, it uses the progressive left’s very favorite word (because profanity is how weak minds attempt to express emphasis) and it is a vile insult directed at people of far superior moral character than he. You can read it at this link.

And judging by the responses to his Tweet, his followers are as vile and reprobate as he is.

Commenter Throbert, who speaks Latin and Russian (I know this), suggested we ought to discuss this Truvada/PrEP thing. So… let’s discuss, won’t you?

Truvada was developed by evil capitalist pharmaceutical companies as a treatment for HIV; but if taken daily, it can reduce the risk of HIV infection among people having unprotected sex by 90%. The treatment costs over a thousand dollars a month. And, of course, a number of people think … much like Sandy Fluke’s party favors … the Government should pay for it, or force insurance companies to force those who don’t engage in unprotected secks to pay for it?

If you’re a Democrat/Progressive the answer is simple: “[Expletive] Yeah! The Government should pay for that/Force other people to pay for that!” Because Democrat/Progressives believe the Government should fund almost everything… the exceptions being the military and the Border Patrol. And if you disagree… you hate gay people and want to outlaw gay sex. Not only should PrEP be funded, but Christians should be forced by law to provide catering services to bathhouse orgies.

People thoughtful enough not to be Progressive Democrats may see more somewhat more complexity to the issue. One issue being the fact that everybody in the civilized world has known how to not get infected with HIV since 1984. If folks had universally adhered to the HIV-prevention guidance we’ve known about for thirty years, AIDS would be as rare (in the first world anyway) as an honest politician or an accurately predictive Global Warming model.

Even proponents of the drug admit that it’s not exactly… medically necessary.

“For folks who are having a significant amount of unprotected sex, it’s a slam dunk — not only giving them protective medicine, but engaging them in testing, a whole package of regular health care,” he said.

i.e. We’re not curing cancer here, we are talking about subsidizing a promiscuous lifestyle choice. It’s one thing to make that choice, quite a different thing to demand that others subsidize it.

“Personal responsibility for one’s actions has simply been thrown out the window in a community in which we are too often concerned about stigma and moral judgment,” he wrote. “We dare not speak against the reckless behavior of others because we wring our hands over the omnipresent worry that we will shame one another.”

Yup.

Just caught Erin Burnett on CNN talking about something I had noticed earlier today as trending on Yahoo!

Yup, that’s right, number one above.* On his “700 Club” television show yesterday, his co-host Kristi Watts read a letter from a woman having trouble forgiving a cheating husband. Watts called infidelity “one of the ultimate betrayals“, but Robertson said the woman should “stop talking about the cheating.” After asking some good questions which get at the heart of what it means to be good husband, he otherwise seems to miss the point, dismissing the problem of infidelity — and failing to understand the full meaning of marriage, particularly the marital vows:

He cheated on you. Well, he’s a man, okay, so, what you do is begin to focus on why you married him in the first place, on what he does good.

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But recognize also, like it or not, males have a tendency to wander a little bit. And what you want to do is make the home so wonderful that he doesn’t want to wander. But, think of the temptations that are out there. The Internet is filled with pornography. Magazines are filled with pictures, salacious pictures of women. Anywhere you turn around, there is some solicitation to the sense to entice a man. And so what you have to do is say, “My husband was captured and I want to get him free.”

Yes, Mr. Robertson is right; males do have a tendency to wander, but marriage vows exist to restrain that tendency, to remind a man that he has, to borrow a term many social conservatives like, made a covenant with a woman, forging a bond more important that the momentary gratification a dalliance with another women might offer.

What this man did was wrong and to earn forgiveness, he should first admit that.

Marriage has evolved for a great many reasons, one of them to control that tendency to wander.  Mr. Robertson should have said as much.  He should have said that what the cheating husband did was wrong — and criticized him for violating his vows.  And for causing pain to a woman to whom he had sworn fidelity. (more…)

When I drove cross country in 2007, I had a conversation with a friend who, had since I left the DC-area in 1999, married his partner in a church ceremony.  Until he met his husband, my friend refrained from sexual activity, doing his part to set an example of the “responsible” single homosexual and not wanting to engage in sexual activity without emotional attachment.

In our conversation in ’07, several years after he and his beloved exchanged their vows, he confessed that he wished he had experimented more in his single days.  Despite this change in attitude about those days, he remain committed to the ideal of marital monogamy; he would remain faithful to his betrothed.  That conversation came to mind this afternoon when I read Jennifer Rubin’s latest commentary on Anthony Weiner:

Women whom he apparently told his wife about before their marriage but could not bring himself to give up. The press isn’t invading his mind or his bedroom; it’s looking at his Tweets and talking to the women on whose Timeline he was willing to risk his marriage, his career and his self-respect.

Emphasis added.  My friend recognizes in word and deed what Weiner understood only in word, that marriage vows change things.  A gay man understands the meaning of marriage, a notion which a powerful straight man refuses to integrate into his life.  If Weiner wasn’t willing to give up his sexual flirtations with other women, why then did he get married?

Even as the gay man referenced in this post recognizes the mistakes (if mistakes they were) he had made in not “experimenting” before he met his beloved, he won’t let his past failure alter his existing marital vows.

Some men, both gay and straight (and I would dare say some women as well), refuse to recognize the responsibilities which inhere in the very idea of marriage.  In exchange for the lifelong commitment of your betrothed, you agree, to borrow an expression, to forsake all others.  Here, the gay man instructs a straight counterpart on the meaning of marriage.

FROM THE COMMENTS:  David in N.O. writes, “BTW, any marriage supporter who says extra-marital trysting is ok is no supporter of marriage of any kind.”  He got that right.

Commenting my post yesterday on civility and monogamy, Sonicfrog offers an interesting and insightful rejoinder to my acknowledgment of the challenges of monogamy:

Living monogamous isn’t that difficult. It comes down to making a relationship a priority over getting your rocks off with a stranger. Granted, the latter can be fun, but the former is, to me anyway, more gratifying.

His comment corresponds with anecdotal evidence I have accumulated from successfully partnered and married acquaintances, friends and family members.  Almost all report how easy it is to remain faithful to their partner.  Some may acknowledge that attractive individuals continue to turn their heads, while others just say that it’s “wrong” to cheat (as one of my straight female friends did in a rather emphatic tone when I asked her why she had never had an affair*).

It does seem that for some, particularly those who were promiscuous in their youth, that monogamy develops naturally out of the relationship. Many realize that a “roll in the hay” (as it were) might offer a moment’s pleasure, but fails to provide the level of connection and intimacy as does their relationship.

Now, I do have some friends in open relationships and they do seem quite balanced individuals, so that arrangement may work out well for them.  But, I also encounter a number of gay men who entered a relationship without either partner expecting to refrain from hookups only to find that, after a time, they stopped seeking outside sources of sexual ‘recreation.”  Monogamy just evolved without either seeking it.

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Perhaps, the editors of Newsweek and Time really don’t want to see state recognition of same-sex marriage.  Given that fact that each magazine has now promoted a man who wears his contempt for Christianity on his sleeve, it seems their editors are little interested in changing the minds of the overwhelming majority of Americans who profess that faith.

Or maybe said editors are oblivious (or indifferent) to the faithful and believe that most people have a worldview similar to their own — only they just need be made aware of it. Reader Peter Hughes alerted me to a post on Newsbusters analyzing Dan Savage’s Time magazine interview:

In this week’s issue, Time magazine followed Newsweek in honoring gay sex columnist Dan Savage and offering him space to trash conservatives. The liberal media sets Savage up as an anti-bullying activist, then lets him push conservative faces in the dirt. In December Newsweek printed him saying “F— John McCain” and asserting Supreme Court Justice Antonin Scalia was clearly a “c—sucker.”

Why does this fellow have to be so nasty so often?  Maybe he’s having a perpetual bad day?  When asked what advice he could “give readers of TIME“, this gay marriage advocate chose to express contempt for monogamy:

We talk about love in a way that’s very unrealistic: “If you’re in love, you’re not going to want to have sex with anyone else but that person.” That’s not true. We need to acknowledge that truth so that people don’t have to spend 40 years of marriage lying to and policing each other.

There is no doubt that monogamy is indeed a challenge, particularly for men. But, it does yield rewards in terms of a deeper emotional connection and greater intimacy.  If someone wants to shack up with another and have other sexual encounters on the side, he should be allowed that choice, but such a relationship is not marriage. (more…)

While completing work on my dissertation last fall, I found my mind sometimes wandering as I pondered two great issues, those of sex and of happiness.  As to the former, I continued my ongoing (and long-running) internal dialogue on where was the appropriate place for a single man to draw the line on sexual activity.  As to the latter, I noticed that on days when I was most productive, I usually felt happier than on those when I slacked off.

And as I drove around neighborhoods adjacent to my own where creative artistic types, many sporting tattoos on their incompletely covered bodies, live in close proximity to Hasidic Jews, most wearing near identical clothing almost entirely covering entire bodies (save their faces), I wondered if those who adopt more constraints on their clothing (as well as their personal appearance) could be as happy as those who have eschewed such religious constraints and dress however they please.

While I have been reminding myself to blog on these topics (and the intersection thereof) since I successfully defended my dissertation, this week it seems the universe has been reminding me as much.  While browsing at Barnes & Noble, I caught site of this display table, featuring books on happiness:

Then, this week, Memeorandum linked Ross Douthat’s column on monogamy where he wrote about research suggesting a “significant correlation between sexual restraint and emotional well-being, between monogamy and happiness“.  Later, Glenn Reynolds linked Douthat’s followup post where the Times columnist noted that in the wake of the sexual revolution:

Female happiness has dropped since the 1970s, despite enormous female economic gains. Marital happiness has dipped as well, even though fewer people get married and it’s easier to leave an unhappy union. (more…)

A friend recently sent me a text which I found it difficult to answer from my cell phone.  Indeed, can’t really give him an answer even now.  At one point in my life, I would have offered a quick and easy answer, but now I’m not so sure how to address his question without relating multiple, often seemingly contradictory thoughts and including numerous anecdotes.

Here, in its entirety, is the text transcribed:

Casual sex: healthy outlet for the single gay or barrier to finding an LTR?

Now, I would lean toward the former answer, but with lots (and lots (and lots and lots (and lots and lots and lots))) of caveats.   We are by nature sexual beings.  I don’t think it’s healthy for us to refrain from sexual expression (for a long period) just because we haven’t found a life-partner.

As one who tried celibacy for a while, I realize it has many beneficial aspects for the short term, but realize that once those benefits are realized it kind of feeds on itself.  (Note to self: finding a better way to express this.)

Perhaps, when I have given the matter some more thought, I can craft a more insightful post.  For now, I’ll just pose his question to y’all and invite you to consider it in the comments section below.